would you rather have your 15 year old daughter walk home drunk at 11:30pm through a rough area of london or let her stay at her boyfriends house with her and her friend sleeping in a totally different room to the boys and with the boys mothers permission and word that she will check up on them?
2006-08-05 02:35:56 · 25 answers · asked by me y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just to clear this up it was my gfs father who would rather she walked around the streets in the end i called and payed for a taxi for her i made sure it took her to her door
2006-08-05 02:41:55 · update #1
she was at a party ....... her dad doesnt drive and doesnt like me (her bf)
2006-08-05 02:44:12 · update #2
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2006-08-05 02:46:12 · update #3
for the love of all that is holy read the above things so you get the whole story please do not jump to conclusions my mother would check up on her and make sure nothing bad was going to happen.
i am the girls bf and i can honestly say that her father is the worst father possible thats why i do my best to make sure that shes always happy and that she is always safe
2006-08-05 02:56:03 · update #4
I would pick her up myself!
Decide to PARENT this child--getting drunk and staying over a boyfriend's house is not appropriate behavior for a 15 year old.
Even with the mom's permission, do you think she will keep an eye on them the entire time. Besides, she may approve of them having sex regardless of what she promises to do--you never know.
If they want to have sex, they will, regardless of the supervision. Imagine that boy's physical and sexual contact with your daughter while she is drunk--a time where she is not in a position mentally and morally to make sound choices. Is it an image you approve of?
You are setting your daughter up for failure.
Being out, drunk and 15 can set her up for any guy to take advantage of her.
Love her enough to set reasonable limits so that she does not end up in situations like this.
Children (yes 15 year olds are still 'children') will always test limits. Mental and emotional security and confidence comes when parents set reasonable limits, to save children from themselves--and give them liberties, little by little, as they become mature enough to handle them.
It is illogical that your daughter has behaviors that will negatively impact her growth and development--like drinking and sleeping around.
2006-08-05 02:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by helpwanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reply is yes it's illogical.
Second reply - Neither.
You did the right thing but you should tell her to chill out with the booze. she's 15 and it'll just mess with her body. I've only recently moved away from London so I know how it is. We all did it at 15 - that was 20 years ago for me.
Keep her sober next time and still call a taxi for her.
P.S. for all you Americans out there. Your surprise is not a surprise to me. Welcome to the sad reality about England, the most savage "civilized country" in the world. An entire nation (but that doesn't mean all the people!) that is out of control and where you may feel that it's better to stay in than go out even in the nice areas.
2006-08-05 02:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your 15 year old getting drunk? Why is she out until 11:30p Sounds like you are too permissive and that may very well be part of the problem.
If I had ever met the mom I would probably let her stay. If not, no way. Of course I wouldn't let her walk home. Why didn't you pick her up??? She IS YOUR daughter.
2006-08-05 02:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by JW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go get her even If I had to walk there, and then the next morning discuss punishments, a 15 year old should not have a bf and should not be out and drinking till 11:30.
2006-08-05 02:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by bopbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um first what the hell is she doing dating at 15 she should not be allowed 2 date till atleast 16. why the hell are u allowing a minor 2 drink I know the legal drinking age is higher than 15. again why the hell is she allowed 2 stay out past 10 pm. and are u out of ur freaking mind her n that boyfriend of hers r gonna do the deed when she is at his house u cannot be that damn nieve.
sounds like this little girl is headed 4 large heartache n a lot worse. get a grip she still just a baby. u need 2 raise her better than that.
2006-08-05 02:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your 15 yr. old drunk and out until 11 pm? We have a deal in our house. 1. No drinking and 2. If you find yourself in a situation you shoudn't or don't want to be in call home for a ride or call a cab and we will pay when you get home
2006-08-05 02:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by SUzyQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd rather her spend the night as long as the boys mother did promise to check in on them. With my 15 year old, what I did was be a responsible parent and drive there and got my daughter and then in the morning I punished her while she was hungover.
2006-08-05 02:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see you should call dad or mom to come pick you up, so i can yell and belittle you in the car for getting drunk and staying out late in the first place. And then your grounded for 3 months. As for that boys mother I wouldnt trust her a bit for letting minors drink in her home, and that boyfriend wouldnt be allowed to ever come over to my home again.
2006-08-05 02:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by puzzle55usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you go here, it would not be safe, but it would be safer for her to stay there, as if she walks home, she could get raped and killed.
But my question to you is what is a 15 year old girl doing out drinking? She is not even of legal age, at least not around here she wouldn't be. She is just asking for trouble at that age and out drinking.
2006-08-05 02:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go get her. Why would your 15 yr old be drinking and drunk anyway. Sounds like the mother over there isn't trust worthy any way.
2006-08-05 02:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by fourangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋