my girl friend has just dumped me, in an incredibly harsh way ( i won't go into details(i don't really want to at the mo)) and my friends are telling me the quickest way to get over it, is to find another as soon as possible, and i'm wondering is that the best way to go about it?
2006-08-05 02:15:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am not seeking revenge, i am only looking for the best wway to heal the pain.
2006-08-05 02:28:29 · update #1
i'm reading some of these answers.
and i'm saying that i don't want to pull. i would like a long term thing. i feel so hollow with short term stuff. that's why i stopped.
2006-08-05 02:30:29 · update #2
just because i have been treated like dirt WILL NOT mean i will treat the next girl any differently. al of my gf's will get my very best attempt to have a good relationship
2006-08-05 02:33:05 · update #3
looking back i did not deserve to be dumped. i was the one putting in all the effort. she made no effort at all. she did treat me like ****, but i thought it would get better. and then she had the nerve to dump me and tell everyone i never really made HER happy.
2006-08-05 02:36:18 · update #4
no i didn't deserve to be dumped the way i was. she still isn't talking to me, even tho i've tryed to talk to her several times. i don't want to go out on the note we are now. i still want to be mates if anything. but she's being so cruel to me and i don't think i should bother.
2006-08-05 02:38:16 · update #5
sorry dudes. but i must say that the girls have the best answers for this one. and i really appreciate all your help so far. really great answers. thx for cheering me up
2006-08-05 02:43:39 · update #6
Well, stalking her or feeling bad about it isn't going to help you get over it.
There are a couple of things you need to ask yourself...
1. Did you deserve to be dumped? I'll be honest, in my younger years, I deserved to be dumped a few times...but I wanted out and didn't want to be the one dumping ... so I acted like a real twit in the hopes the guy would get sick of me and tell me to shove off.
2. Does anyone deserve to be dumped the way she dumped you? I mean, really...if she was "incredibly harsh" about it...was it necessary? Some people just don't get the "polite dump" and you have to be really mean to get the point home.
But above and beyond that...would you want to sigh and mourn over someone who would dump you, and dump you harshly? I'm hoping you say "no".
You know, you could always just take some time, hang out with friends, get involved in sports, pick up a hobby (drums?), and not jump right back into another relationship.....spend some time deciding what you want...and don't just date because you'll get over it sooner. You won't....it's going to take time, and you may as well spend that time on yourself.
2006-08-05 02:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it is definatly not the best way to go about it.Rebounds are not a good idea,they can and will come back to bite you on the butt.Trust me I know from experience,in the 12 years I have been dating I have never had more than a 3 month gap between boyfriends and I now realise this is NOT good.You need to give yourself time to re adjust to being single and re evaluate where you want to go in life as chances are you had plans with your ex which are no longer viable.Go out and have fun and if you want to go on the pull go on the pull but don't start anything seriouse with anyone till you know that you have dealt with the emotional baggage from your previouse relationship.
2006-08-05 09:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by rhieanon6108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself be mad-really mad -yell, hit a wall if necc. Then listen to Slipknot or something else angry and go out with the guys. Take a chance, score w/a hot chick, never see her again. Then start the week out right and back to normal. I'm not gonna tell you that time heals all wounds- coz if your bitter now you'll be bitter in 6 months. But the sooner you fake being over it the easier it will become! Best of luck and may she be hit by a Mac truck.
2006-08-05 09:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by ghostchaser.christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. in some ways your friends are right - it is the quickest way to get over someone because you are focusing n someone else but you arent being fair to the new girl (whoever she turns out to be) or to yourself - you need time to gieve (for want of a better word); to get over the girlfriend that dumped you ESPECIALLY considering she did it in a less then nice way. To go rushing into a new relationship will only do more harm to yourself than good; most people arent emotionally ready to jump from one relationship to another - unless you are an exception to this rule then you need to give yourself time to heal emotionally.x.
2006-08-05 09:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by *Dee* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no not really, it may make you feel better in the short term, but wont help you get over a particular girl. Rebound relationships are not a good idea. Plus if the new girl found out that she was a rebound girlfriend she might not be very happy!
Take your time is my advice.
2006-08-05 09:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by purpleandroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
If you're angry, bitter, depressed, or crushed by it, then wait til you sort out your negative feelings. Otherwise, you'll be a complete @$$hole.
Get back in the saddle when you're ready, but don't wait too long. My roommate got dumped by a girl and waited eight years before asking another woman out. That's way too freaking long. LOL.
Concentrate on you studies, keeping your self-confidence intact, and remember not all girls are your ex-girlfriend.
You'll find there's a cornucopia of babes out there, just take your time and pick the one's you're into.
Good luck.
2006-08-05 09:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by dgrhm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! That isn't the best thing to do.If you have been dating her for some time I would give myself a break you know? Seems the biggest mistake people make is dating someone else right after they breakup .if there is any feelings there you might get back together .If your dating someone else you are creating feelings there with someone else.Then 9 times out of 10 dump them to take the other back.There is alot who date someone else to make the other see They can get someone else.But truly want the one they were with back .I would wait.See what happens
2006-08-05 09:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by little district girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, i wudn't rush in2 another relationship because ya need time 2 get ove this girl, i know ya wana keep busy but ya can do that wiv ya mates jus go out n have fun enjoy being single 4 a bit, i think if ya start a new relationship wiv sum1 else it wil end in disaster, u need 2 4get ur ex she'll be enjoyin all the attention she iz gettin from u,
2006-08-05 13:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by charlotte b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, because you will probably end up hurting them, even if it's unintentional. I would give it a little while, so that you don't just treat them like a rebound. I know right now ou want to know how to make yourself feel better, but think about the next girls heart before you jump to any rash decision
2006-08-05 09:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww cheer up! well if you want you can go out with another girl but i would probably advise you to be single for a little time to allow some time for you to recover. yea its going to be tough but maybe it will help you in the long term. enjoy life being a single, think of it in that way maybe it will help. dont worry you will find the girl for you sooner or later! good luck! ^ ^
2006-08-05 11:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by *Shruti* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋