How can I respect my dad and stop answering him back?

Question

Well when me and my dad and if I say something that he disagree he says I am answering him back but then I said I thoguht we are talking but he always blame me for making him getting anrgy.Can someone help me I am not a baby anymore.

What can I say to him he is angry with me

you guys are the best this really help me alot I don't need a family member well my mum is not here they are not together anymore you guys don't know how much I really appricate this thank you so much.

Answer 1

You are not responsible for your dad's anger, he is.
There is something else going on with him, and he is not owning up to it.
It is easier to blame you then to take responsibility for himself.
WE ARE ALL RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS!!
I worked in a domestic abuse shelter for 10 years, and I cannot tell you how many times I heard "You made me so mad I had to hit you".
That is so very wrong in so many ways.
When you find yourself in that situation, you are talking about one thing, and he starts going off in another direction, protect yourself.
Don't stay there and keep talking.
Get out of there.
You don't need to stomp off, or lie (that will just escalate things).
Just say something like "I never thought of it that way" or "can I take some time to think about that" then move out of the room.
But beware, even those can trigger his anger.
Is your mom around?
Is anyone around?
You haven't mention if he has hit you yet, when he blames you for his anger I fear it is only a matter of time.
I am worried about you.
You are not a baby, and don't act like one.
You are not defenseless.
GET HELP.
A friends parent, an aunt or uncle or grandparents, school will be starting soon - the school has intervention plans, or anyone else you can think of.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Sounds like he is angry about something else. If I didn't have a mom to talk to him and make him see what he was doing, I think I would write him a letter. Just like your question. Explain to him that you are older now and you have opinions of your own and that shouldn't make him angry. Don't try to make him mad by disagreeing just to get him going when you do talk. In other words, don't push his buttons, even for fun. Let him know that you two can have a conversation. Tell him you listen to his opinions and you would like him to listen to yours. Be sincere and just be honest in your letter, no complaining. I bet you will find that your dad just has a lot of other things on his mind. And, I bet he will appreciate you reaching out and letting him know how you feel. I really feel like this letter will bring you two closer together. Now he will understand that you are growing up. I'd give anything if my dad was still around to talk to. So write that letter now!! Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Maybe when the two of you are talking, you should actually listen to what he has to say. Then when he's finished, you can speak your mind.

If he gets upset or angry, ask him why?

Maybe he's just getting a different image than what you ar trying to present to him. Misunderstandings do occur, usually because one person isn't really able to comprehend what the other person is saying.

But even though the two of you argue, be glad that you can at least talk to him.

Answer 4

When most people speak to another, it is really all about them. They are reflecting their emotions to the outside world. It is a threat to his ego when you dissagree. Keep your ego out of it and listen to what is really going on with him. This is empathy on your part. It's a tough skill to master, but after awhile, his ego will get more compfortable communicating with you, he will let down his guard and listen more. Only answer questions. You cant change him, but you can your reactions to him, which in time will change his reactions to you. I have turned assholes into pussycats with this method, but you must be patient. Have fun with it and watch the transformation in your relationship. When you can master yourself, nobody will be able to take your power, Good luck.

Answer 5

Simple, by respecting him from the bottom of your heart, that is by putting your priorities aside to accomodate his and trusting him to do his best for you. Try to put your self in his shoes and see the insecurities he faces and the resposibilities he has. You will appreciate him more. Show him in a way that he understands that you love him and care for him. Good sense of humor also helps to get along with each other.

Answer 6

since u claim u are no longer a kid just try and develop the spirit of patience in all things, u can after talking with your dad call him aside and tell yhim in a nice way things u think worry u in his speech or just try and keep quiet when your conversations are turning into arguments in this way i'm sure he will always becareful when talking to u.

Answer 7

There are things that you can "discuss" with him, and times that he is telling you something. You need to learn the difference. Also think about your tone of voice and body language. They affect whether he thinks you are talking back, or are discussing something.

Answer 8

you can say:
"I dont want to make you angry, but I disagree and this is what I think"
or
"I dont want to make you angry, I disagree, do you really want me to answer that".

Answer 9

let him talk but you never talk back when hes angry.
and when hes in a good mood you go and start your points.

Answer 10

watch your tone and calmly explain why you feel the way you do