i saw this bloke that i kinda like n we kinda just took a glance at each other a few times already. I kinda like him but the problem is that we do not talk to each other. So my main problem is that is it ok for me to MAKE A MOVE 1st? Or he must make a move 1st. Is it a tradition for guys to make the their 1st move? How should i start off? by HAVIN' A CONVERSATION WITH HIM? But my friends say that guys must make their 1st move not me
Ladies i really need ur help
I'm really glad if it would work
2006-08-04 22:29:09 · 13 answers · asked by leehom_craze 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Performing Arts
I'm afraid that ppl would call me THICKSKINNED if i make the 1st move.
This q. i hope that u ladies could help me with this " Should mind about wat would ppl think about me if i were to make the 1st move on a guy?"
I would appreciate it if you could help me out here
TQ!!!
2006-08-04 22:37:12 · update #1
Run "accidentally" with a cup of coffee into him, and then pretend you wanna help him clean his shirt.Apologize a lot and then see what happened
2006-08-04 22:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Gersin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
If he doesn't want to talk to you first he could just be shy.
Don't let him get away without ever having tried ~ you'll always wonder what could have been.
You make the 1st move and don't let your friends run your life!
Ask him a simple question like "May I ask you something?"
When he says yes, ask him how old he is. Tell him he seems older, more mature, and that's why you asked.
Then tell him your age. After that, look at him for one or two seconds & just say, "I'm (your name) by the way." and stick your hand out to shake his. He will then tell you his name. You say "Nice to meet you." and the rest will go smoothly. Take your ipod with you and that will give you your next subject: Music!
Good Luck ! : )
2006-08-04 22:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mary* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont make the first move someone else will!
do you really want that/?
now a days its ok to make the first move if you are a girll! a lot of love or could be love that didnt happend because no one made the first move! if you think he likes you then do it! thats the only way to find out! you have nothing to lose! if he doesnt llike you then you at least now you know where you stand and so you can now move on with your life!
but i hope he really likes you back!
all the best!
2006-08-04 22:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by yen12rs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy doesn't always have to make the first move. Sometimes they are too stupid to make a move. Heh. Definately talk to him let him know how you feel. The only way he is gonna know is if you get off your butt and tell him. He may be scared too. Who knows. Just let him know how you feel. But be prepared if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. Make sure you tell him how you feel though. It is probably the only way you will ever even know. Good Luck and God Bless. Hope you get the answer your looking for from him.
2006-08-04 22:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_one4now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the first move, some guys think that that is the hottest way for a girl to get a guy's attention. My guy was into me for about a year before I noticed and asked him out, and now we've been dating for three years! so ask him! what's the worst that could happen? He could say no before you even know him, so it's really no loss to you, or you guys could go out and develop a beautiful relationship! If he's too scared to ask you out, then you should definitely go for it. Who cares what other people think?
2006-08-05 06:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by littlemissfgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh the same thing happened to me once a year ago, there was this guy that lived next door to me, he is so lovely, i saw im walk past me acouple of times adn we only glanced at each other, a few months later, he came out of his house and said hello to me, i was so stunned i could barely open my mouth, then after that we would stare at each other from across the street and i would trip over myself sometimes which made him giggle. then one day i thaught right i have to kno this person, so i started talking to his mum, adn i helped her with something, the next day i came out of my house exactly the same time as him, i let him walk on a bit then he turned to me and said i do not think we have met yet, we shook hands adn started talking, we had such a laugh and realised we had so much in common, the same music we are both vegetarian adn painters, we both are learning to play the guitar adn stuff like that, we were like too peas in pod. he hugged me at the end of the convo and said he loved me i was like wow, later on that day we kissed adn we have been seeing each other ever since.
2006-08-04 22:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by English gothic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hi" is always a good first move. Your friends are probably telling you to play it cool and not overdo, however treat this bloke like you would any other interesting person and your first move may very well turn into his.
2006-08-05 09:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take the initiative this time round. Just a casual, "Hey, wassup" will be good enough to start off. He might be shy to approach you, and if both of you are shy, the sparks will never bloom!~ Haha. Good luck!
2006-08-04 22:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up and say hi! Chances are if you are both checking each other out, then a conversation will start. He's probably just as nervous as you are. :)
Good luck!
2006-08-04 22:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lostmydammind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18, sure make the move. Talk to him.
2006-08-04 22:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋