When I have sex with my girlfriend, it feels amazing but I just keep going and going! I have never been able to reach climax yet. At first I was proud of my stamina, but after going for about an hour every time we have sex, I just end up feeling unfulfilled and that I let my girlfriend down. Does anyone else have this problem, or does anyone have any advice?
2006-08-04 21:55:37 · 20 answers · asked by evylllogos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I can get off masturbating. That's not too hard to do. Could it be anxiety? I feel comfortable with her though.
2006-08-04 22:01:22 · update #1
Let me tell you this. I am add (attention deficit disorder) or something. If I am with a guy and we have sex for a really long time I get bored. That is not fun. It is one thing to have sex for an hour or so when you are having multiple orgasms. One hour wasted on one nut! heck no! I would get irritated down there eventually. My attention span is too short for that. In that situation, I would change up the position where I would be in control. I would then start massaging his penis and providing oral stimulation. If that does not work, a hand job always can finish it off.
You would make me feel like I am not satisfying you. By all means, figure out what your problem is. You need to really concentrate. Think about the same things as when you masturbate.
2006-08-12 04:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem. I have pinpointed it to having sex to fast......I find that having slow, sensual sex almost always does the trick. If that does not work, try another sexual position. Make sure to find one that you both like, and then go for it, also, if you still have the problem, i would just say, keep going, because if you go for that long, you know your girl is orgasming, so, keep up the good work. Also, make sure that you have a clear mind, i have found that the missionary position helps to correct the problem in that you can look into your woman's eyes and be totally focused on her.....I hope my advice is helpful.
2006-08-12 16:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by BigDaddy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has basically the same problem actually. I usually start off givin him head and jackin him off and just alternating between the two. It may take a while but if I look him in the eyes before and tell him to relax and let me do the work for a while then I can usually finish him off without sex in about forty-five minutes to an hour. kerleyfry24@hotmail.com
2006-08-13 00:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by ooh_rah07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I know what it is...do you...take matters into your OWN hands a lot? Because if you do, you have made your "tool" desensitized.Yes, you can do that. Because your are being relatively rougher with it in your hand than she is with her body during actual sex, you have made your body think that it needs to be handled rather roughly in order to finish. Also, you've gotten too used to the feel of your hand.
I suggest, if this is the case, that if you do feel the need to...do things yourself, do it with a looser grip. In the beginning, it will take longer for you to finish. But over time, you'll finish faster. And then you will find that finishing inside your girlfriend should be attainable.
2006-08-13 01:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jonnae L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has alot of stamina aswell. If we want a quickie he has to take me doggie style. If you gf is not having multiple orgasims things could get annoying not to mention sore/dry so I would suggest masterbation BEFORE intercourse. Stop Just before you reach your climax and then get busy with the misses. If you are young or inexperienced maybe it could be anxiety. But it still wouldn't hurt to check with a Dr. if this doesn't work.
2006-08-12 20:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive had that prob... but it was jus stress... or ive gotten off too much before that like jack in offor whtaever.... what about you... do u get off a lot before you go do it with her worrying about how long you could last.... or are you doin her just cause sjhe wants top and u dont really want to... if u dont want to i w0ould let her know and not mess around.. se4riously dont leda her on
2006-08-05 05:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by JQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, well I suggest you make your foreplay longer, without actually having intercourse as this should make you more aroused, massaging is a definite, try that. Then when you think that you are running out of time well, the rest is up to you. have fun!
2006-08-05 05:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you finish when you're alone taking care of business? If you can, it may be anxiety, if you can't, it may be medical. I'd go talk to a urologist.
Ok, you might be subconsciously anxious. About pregnancy, about pleasing her... it won't hurt you to see a therapist.
2006-08-05 04:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried masturbating to see if you can make yourself c*m? Maybe she isn't tight enough or maybe too wet. Have you tried having her give you plenty of oral sex before intercourse to get the motor running; use us some of your gas?
2006-08-05 04:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by makeherwett 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jack off and see if you can finish. if you can, maybe you just have a ton of stamina, if not you may need to see a doctor
2006-08-05 05:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋