What is better: marriage without children or with children?

Question

if some couple has enough money they can afford to have children in marriage. However, for the poor people, would it be good choice to live without children? I know that most of you will not agree but some of you may agree. And why? Because to take good care about children is very demanding and cost a lot of money.

Answer 1

Marry only if are able to sustain ur family............

Answer 2

I don't think anyone should interpret this question to mean that Aleksandar is trying to tell other people whether they should have kids or not. I think it is purely a question he is thinking about for personal reasons.
Here is my opinion (for what it's worth). You can have a wonderful happy marriage without having kids, and you can have a lot of kids and a completely miserable excuse for marriage - thanks to poverty or personal circumstances. It's a personal decision by the couple. Money is a blessing and can make it a lot easier to cope with most situations - but not all. Another huge factor should be how much time and love you have to give to your kids. It's probably not surprising, but there are a lot of women who think their responsibility ends once they have given birth to their children. Maybe these women have faulty genes, or just a predatory nature. Luckily, they often choose wise, loving and supportive husbands or have other relatives around to help out. Kids need parents, not some kind of lazy "motherhood or fatherhood by neglect" upbringing. I've seen plenty of fathers (including my husband towards his own kids - we don't have any together) who are MUCH better parents than mothers.
That said, if you can have kids and want them, life is much richer with them. Try to find a way to afford one or two - maybe you might have to wait a while - and everyone will be so much better for it. Love and patience and most important.

Answer 3

I think that it depends on what the potential parents want. If they really want children, then money wouldn't be an issue. And yes takin good care of children is very demanding. But some consideration should be given to the children. If you feel that you will not be able to provide them with the loving and care that all kids need, it is best to wait, to insure they will have that. Then when you feel ready, and stable, begin thinking about the possibility of kids

Answer 4

I totally agree with you but children are almost a must of a marriage is like a solidification of the marriage if the couple is poor at least one child would be enough but I feel a child is needed to make the marriage stronger even though is not always the case.

Answer 5

In the beginning of marriage, build on the foundation of the relationship (without children). When there's alot of love in the marriage, there will be children. No matter what financial situation, you'll still provide for them & their needs, and not forgetting your spouse as well. Out of love, commitment & responsibilities, you'll work hard for your family. It's not healthy for a marriage to have no kids at all. Once you're getting old, you wish you've kids, but it will be too late.

Answer 6

So, would you propose that poor couples should not be allowed to have children? The government should require a poor woman to have a hysterectomy, or a poor man to have a vasectomy?

And if you have children with your husband and later he divorces you and you get the raw end of the deal, should the children go to him because he has the money? And if this happens and it drives you insane, shall we have you committed to the state mental hospital?

Answer 7

you shouldnt bring children into this world unless you are absolutely sure that you can take care of them.love is necessary in raising children but it is not enough. you need money, time and a lot of patience.love will not put food in their plate or buy diapers and medicine when they are sick.my advice is wait for sometime before you are absolutely sure that you can support another human being.bringing children in this world is easy but to be a mom, is not. you have to take care of them 24/7, you have to provide for them and raise them as a model citizen. that is hard work. do take children but wait for it. save enough and then .i waited three years after my marriage before we can save enough to plan for my first son.also then i had to wait for another 3 years before we could have nother son. we are going to wait for 5 more years before we can plan for our third child. children are needed in a marriage but be prepared for it.

Answer 8

My husband and I have 2 kids now and I would like to have one more. My husband doesnt. He says that we cant afford anymore kids. My arguement is this... as a kid do you actually remember all the toys and dolls and games you had, or do you remember going to the park, camping and the time you spent with your family. Kids are a blessing and I feel like everything will take care of itself.

Answer 9

With

Answer 10

with children... money doesn't matter that much... and you always find a way

Answer 11

without children what will they have to fight over when they get divorced