Hi, an online friend whom I've befriended for 5 months commented on my photos sent to him via e-mail. He told me that he wouldn't call me very pretty, but he didn't find me unattractive either. He suggested that I smiled more because I will be more attractive if I smile more. Could you please tell me if he's being sincere or just polite when he made such a comment? Sincere and serious answers ONLY, thanks.
2006-08-04 21:38:02 · 17 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many people confuse "good looks" with "being attractive". I have once asked one of the prettiest girl in school to a dance, her response was VERY UGLY (so I was lucky NOT to hook up with someone so cruel).
But being attractive is HOW you carry yourself and how you feel about yourself. (People can SEE that!) If you tend to scowl a lot, then you wouldn't be very attractive or charismatic. A smile ALWAYS improves a person's "Face Value". So don't worry if you're not a "10" in physical looks, People are attracted to "10s" in ATTITUDE.
Do something GOOD for yourself and be the best person you can be. You will attract PLENTY!
As for the person who first made the comment, It doesn't seem that he was trying to hurt your feelings but offering positive criticism. Don't take offense. We ALL could improve ourselves in one way or another. Sometimes it is surprising to get honest feedback (even though it wasn't solicited)
Be Good To Yourself! :D
2006-08-04 21:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by dustytymes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, the thing is... Most people have a type that they are attracted to.
When I meet a guy he may have features that make him my type or not. But there is a gray area. My boyfriend is not particularly attractive to me as far as some things about him go (although I'd never call him unattractive, or give him the impression that I think he is) The good things out weigh the things that I might find repulsive in some one else. It's highly likely he was being sincere, but I also think he was being obnoxious.
I don't know your bond with him but in my opinion he seems to feel the need to make you feel beneath him. As I'm sure you know people do this because they have insecurity issues.
If you have a healthy self esteem, put him in his place by not letting him know he got to you with this particular comment. Instead exude confidence and let him know, perhaps you could do better...
If self esteem is one of your weaknesses you should find someone who isn't so blatant and abrasive with him personality.
2006-08-04 21:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell would say that to another person? Advising somone to smile more in pictures is one thing but saying "I wouldn't call you pretty" isn't polite or sincere. It sounds like something an *** would say.
2006-08-04 21:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on the guy. working example, i'm being easy if I say it. If I run into somebody that i haven't seen in a on a similar time as and that i will tell that they have not enable themselves circulate in the time of those unseen years I mean it when I say you have no longer replaced a lot or you nonetheless look sturdy. although, in the event that they have enable themselves circulate I in simple terms in simple terms say it became into effective runnning into you.
2016-09-28 22:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just being polite because if I find the person unattractive, it'll stay in my mind forever.
2006-08-04 21:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sakura Drops 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me...i think he's being sincere. at least he told you what he really thinks. being polite would just go straight ahead & tell you that you are beautiful, so as not to hurt your feelings.
2006-08-04 22:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by kevkatz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is being sincere. after 5 months of friendship i think he will be honest with you.
2006-08-04 21:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Rixxi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what is going on in his mind but it sounds as if he was being honest. It's up to you whether you want to believe him or not.
2006-08-04 21:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's being sincere and honest.
2006-08-04 21:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by LorrinO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do't do this type of online business. Be careful.
2006-08-04 21:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by sudhi's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋