why is it that if a guy ask me out and i refuse, and if later i ask him to be my friend they never do. Even though i i reject them polietly and try not to hurt their ego. Is it a guy thing or sometin?
2006-08-04 20:49:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This will sound harsh, but is an honest depiction of how a lot of guys think. One of my best friends is missing that connection that goes from his brain to his mouth to regulate what he says. His take on this situation is "I have enough friends in life, & friends aren't getting me laid". Essentially, having a girl offer to be your friend instead of going out with you is like winning Miss Congeniality at a beauty pageant instead of getting First Prize. To a guy, this is worse than getting the booby prize at a carnival, because there's no boobies involved. The phrase "no, but we can still be friends" is probably in most men's top ten most hated phrases used by women list, along with "you're like a brother to me", "I love you, I'm just not in love with you", "what are you thinking about right now?", "does this make me look fat?", "you're going to be so happy... I'm pregnant!", "I don't know, what do you want to do?", "not tonight, I've got a headache", & various other annoying phrases that vary from man to man to fill out their top ten lists. Trust me, if you want to reject a guy, you're better off just saying you aren't interested, & leaving it at that. If he wants to be friends, he'll come to you. If he doesn't come to you, you wouldn't go out with him, so he didn't want to waste time on you when he could be looking for another girl who might not reject him. Try not to take it personally, but that's probably what these guys you've met are thinking. I hope this has helped.
2006-08-04 21:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a guy thing as we don't take rejection lightly no matter how "nicely" you let us down. Also most guys find it hard to be friends with someone the want to go out with and get intimate with...
2006-08-05 03:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys do not want to be friends with girls, they want to either have a girlfriend or a friend with benefits. A girl who refuses a date is not likely to be either so it is usually a waste of time for the guy to try to be "just a friend". No guy want to hear a girl say "can we just be friends".
2006-08-05 03:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. They do not want you as a friend. They want you for more than a freind. Not necessarily for sex (maybe they do), but they are looking for a romantic relationship. When you want to be friends, you are not available to them for anything more than that. If they wanted a friend, they can go hang out with the fellas.
2006-08-05 03:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still hurt their ego, guys are just stubborn that way. Not all but a lot of them.
2006-08-05 03:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥HeidiJustine♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause luv...do you really think someone who likes you wants to be the friend who gets to watch you go out with another guy and then hear about all the stuff you wouldn't do with him? ego...we have fragile egos.
2006-08-05 03:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by A Big Monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had to do that once... a really good friend of mine asked me out, and i refused as nicely as i could.... i also asked if we could just stay friends... he was hurt for awhile (his ego was hurt) but he got over it eventually, and now we are closer than ever (as friends = )
2006-08-05 03:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by .j.u.l.i. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why is when u rejected him he felt like his heart was ripped out and it is hard to live without you
2006-08-05 03:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guys attracted to you he don't want to be friends. He wants you being around you is just gonna make him want you more. So he feels why put himself through that torture.
2006-08-05 04:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they might get offended that you rejected them or they take it the wrong way i have no idea
2006-08-05 03:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by tkay. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋