i met this guy and we went out to dinner. we got along great. we talked for a couple hours and had a lot in common. We said goodnight and i was expecting to hear from him in the next few days; but haven't. how can i make sure he knows i want him to call without seeming desperate or needy. or how long should i wait to call him before he calls me?
2006-08-04 20:30:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, don't play this stupid game. Just call him, he will be thrilled
2006-08-04 20:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by uscmedguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Usually the ball is in the guy's court where he should be the one to call the female. We do live in a more liberal society where women are now taking the initiative. However, whomever is the most assertive tends to be the one making the decisions in the long run if a relationship is carried through.
If you want to find out if there's an interest, I'd suggest you find out what his likes are if you know them or can as a mutual friend and then call him up inviting him to go with you because you need or wanted a partner.
It works with any social event or gathering where you can call him and make it casual where you want someone to accompany you. That will give you a reason.
If you just call up out of the blue to chat, it will seem fairly obvious that there's some interest on your part.
2006-08-04 20:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by "IRonIC" by Alanis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call the guy. Act as if you're continuing the conversation and just throw the **** for a few minutes and then ask him if he wants to go out again, say you'd like to see him again. Or you can be the opposite of needy and desperate by simply knowing what you want and slyfully telling him so that there's no excuse. You could say something like, "We had a good time together, you probably want to do it again, don't you?" When he does or doesn't respond you'll know if he's gonna continue to see you, without really putting yourself out too much, and you'll have given him the right answer, as long as you don't sound like you're ridiculing him... but then maybe he would like being ridiculed by a girl. I don't know him. Hahah Im probably just making things more confusing. Seriously though
Just be yourself so he can like you for who you really are, and try to be comfortable so that he can be as well. Do you think he might be as nervous about you? If he asked you out, then he should be calling you up. If your first encounter was more awkward then he may need encouragement, if you initiated it, you need to continue to do so.
2006-08-04 20:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's been several days, I would call him at this point and be very honest. Say to him,
"I thought we had a very nice time last week and I was looking forward to hearing from you again. So I'm calling now because I can't stand the suspense. Would you like to go out again or not? It's okay to say no, I would just like to know." His answer may pleasantly surprise you. If not, it's best to know rather than jumping every time the hone rings. Life is too short to play this kind of game.
2006-08-04 20:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not to wait for his call , he may be expecting a call from you , just be natural , ask simple questions and leave it for next time , he will certainly call you back if he has little feeling for you other wise you just forget him .
2006-08-04 20:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a few more days...say...5 days...If he doesn't call...don't call him either, let's just see how he much he can wait if he really likes you :)... Now it's up to you...you're heart has to tell you what to do, but you can talk to your mother, because she can give you the best advice possible :)
2006-08-04 20:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by mickurahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be he is waiting for you to call, I'd give it up to a week before calling him and asking if he'd like to do it again some time.
2006-08-04 20:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by ruckusssss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ccording to me wait for a week more if he dnt then u call but nvr let him show that u was faiting for his and show little bit of interest ,make some program to hang out and then u just wait if he also interested then he will reply u otherwise dnt run after him it will mak ur impression down dear!!
2006-08-04 20:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by kanu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy.....give it a few more days...then call but dont mention 'I was waiting for you to call me'....instead say...'I was wondering if you would like to out again sometime'.....Hope this helps you.
2006-08-04 20:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Alex S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a week or two then call him. If he doesn't suggest getting together again then I would let it go.
2006-08-04 20:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems that you did not impress him as much as you was thinking.
or it maybe he is doing some serious thinking before he makes a move maybe he has been hurt before and just wants to be sure it dont happen again.
2006-08-04 20:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by carters759 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋