My bachelorette party?

Question

For girls - I know guys answers...

Is it okay for me to have strippers at my bachelorette party but not for my finacé to have them at his party. I trust him and vise-versa but I don't trust his friends. I'm just afraid they'll go to a club, knowing Greg (fiancé), he won't have a good time - he says he only wants to look at and be with me (of course he has to say that but I believe him - hope it won't backfire on me) - but anyways, will he get busy with the strippers to impress his friends or to get them to shut up? I don't wanna test it.
See, if I have them and he can't, it won't be right. But that's what I want.
I want the comeplete bachelorette party but I can't have it without strippers. Then he has to have them if I do but I'll be stressed out all night and not enjoy my party if he has them. Don't know what to do...
I know I'm in the wrong but do any of u girls know where I'm coming from? Anybody agree?

Answer 1

I know where you're coming from, but welcome to the married world of compromise. It's either both get strippers, none get strippers, or you find a place that has both (They really do exist) and have the stripper part of the evening as a group. Plus I think it's infinitely less dangerous if they're at an actual strip club as opposed to hiring one to come to say a hotel room. Actual clubs have such strict rules about touching that even if your fiance did want to go too far to impress his friends, he couldn't.

Answer 2

You pretty much have two choices:

1. Have your parties on different nights so stressing out over him having strippers won't ruin your fun.

2. Hold yourself to the same standard you hold him to.

You don't need strippers to have the ultimate bachelorette party. The party is about having fun with your friends, not getting blasted and watching some guy pick a dollar up off your nose with his buttcheeks.

Answer 3

"Is it okay for me to have strippers at my bachelorette party but not for my finacé to have them at his party"

Nope. That isn't fair and I think it is wrong that you want to think "it is ok for me but not you". If you have it, he is allowed too.

"I trust him and vise-versa but I don't trust his friends"

You don't trust him either. If you trusted him. You would trust he would do the right thing and leave if they hired a stripper or did anything inappropriate JUST AS he would hope you would too.

"will he get busy with the strippers to impress his friends or to get them to shut up? I don't wanna test it."

Just proved my point. You don't trust him. If you don't trust his judgment whether unmarried. Then you won't trust his judgment while placed in this situation while married.

"But that's what I want"

Not mature enough to be married yet then. What makes you think he doesn't feel the same about you? What makes you think having male strippers isn't making him upset?? Stop being selfish and all about "you you you". This is his too. Think about him.

"Anybody agree?"

Nope. You said that he told you "He only wants to look at me and be with me".

Let me ask you this: How come you don't feel the same way?

Answer 4

Thats really sad that you cant have a party without strippers, and even worse that you want to have them, but you dont want him to. Thats not right. Neither me or my husband had or saw strippers at our parties. We didnt want or need them. I would rather be home looking at him naked then some nasty, possible diseased stripper. He said the same and so we are completely commited to eachother. No strippers, no porn, no nothing. You have no right to tell him no strippers at his party if you are having them at yours. Sounds like a bad start to a marriage tou dont even have yet. LOL...good luck...you'll need it.

Answer 5

I think strippers are lots of fun. Don't let these other boring uptight people tell you otherwise.
However, I do agree, that it isn't fair for you to have them, and him not. I really wouldn't worry about it too much. As someone else mentioned, strip clubs have EXTREMELY strict rules about touching. Nobody's going to get on stage and start performing sexual acts on anyone. Lap dance, maybe, but that's about the extent of it. It's only fair that he gets to see strippers if you do. Hell, maybe they won't even do that. If he wants to, let him. You have to show him that you have complete trust and faith in his love and respect for you.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Answer 6

instead of the intercourse and penis thank you to flow, you ought to do a spa themed party. surprisingly in spite of if that's a small team of ladies, lease out an afternoon spa and drink mimosa and get your nails performed and attempt hair dos yall will positioned directly to the marriage,makeup instructions or perhaps massages and then do procuring for each others night out dresses. After that hit up the community stylish wine bar or jazz bar. The favors ought to contain a recent certificates for facial or waxing the week in the previous the marriage.

Answer 7

tell u a story:

my friend's wife's (both asian) bachelorette party has an african-american hired stripper. in the heat of the moment, one thing led to another. nine months later, my friend's wife gave birth to an african-american baby. they are now separated. true story.

Answer 8

I say what's good for one, is good for the other. It has to go both ways. Either you let him, and then you get what you want. Or you both don't.

You won't be stressed anyways because if you are having the full party...you will be drunk anyways.

Answer 9

Talk about a double standard, why do you get the complete package but he doesn't?

Answer 10

That's what you call an old fashion double standard.