First of all, this gets easier--trust me. Before you try to talk to her, you need to get your head on straight. You've turned her into some kind of object on a throne. She's just a person like you, and, like you, wants to get the most out of life. Quit focusing on how much you want her, and try focusing on how much fun you two could have together. Nobody wants to be someone's object of admiration. You have to talk to her as an equal or it doesn't matter what you say.
That said, it only gets weird if you get weird. If she says "no thanks", then say something funny to blow it off and forget about it, and you two can go on being pals. Something like, "Hey, want go see (whatever,,,Monster House--whatever 16 yr. olds go to) this Friday?" She says, "Sorry, I don't want to." Then say, "Whew,,good thing. I already have one date and a threesome might have been a little weird..." (Then smile to let her know you're kidding and change the subject.)
If you're comfortable--she'll be comfortable. And if you're comfortable when you ask her, and make it sound fun, you won't have to worry about it because she'll have no reason to say "no."
Being funny is almost as good as being a singer in a rock band, and you can think about how to be funny ahead of time.
(P.S. In 20 years or so, you're going to look back and wonder why you thought she was all that. She is not what you're making her out to be. She's just a person like you, and wants the same things as you do.)
2006-08-04 20:31:08
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answered by Pepper 4
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OK, I won't tell you to just ask her out because I know that's not what you want to hear. I think that you should continue to hang out with her as much as you can without seeming like a totally obsessed nut. If you show too much interest in her right away, you might turn her off, so be cool about it. After time, you'll get the idea whether she's into you or not. She'll do little things like brush up against you, giggle a lot and tell you how great you are. If she starts dropping hints, you're pretty safe to casually ask her out. It will be uncomfortable if you ask her out and she's not interested and things won't be the same with you two again. That's just an ugly fact of life. At some point though, you're going to need to either accept what you've got and keep wishing for more or take the chance of getting what you want. Ask yourself this: Can I be happy with ______ just being friends or am I always going to be going crazy wanting more? If the answer is that it's going to be torturing to just be friends, you have nothing to lose by asking her out. I've been in this situation many times and the truth is that you can't be friends with her if you want more than she does. I hope she feels the same way for you! Good luck!
2006-08-04 20:22:22
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answered by Answers to Nurse 3
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a million. bypass to a place the place you adult males many times bypass. this way you will not have her traumatic or traumatic. you ought to to initiate with a team date then use this technique for a private date. 2. while she gets there, communicate related to the customary. this could create a comfortable atmosphere. 3. Then, say some thing around this line, what are you doing after college, reckoning on what she says you will respnd like this. 3a. (if she says she's busy) Ask her what she's doing all week. once you hit upon an empty slot convient to the the two certainly one of you,then you definately recommend that date. 3b.(if she says she's unfastened) Ask her what could she think of roughly going to the movies or skating or some thing you the two appreciate. 4. If she says ok, set up a time, a fashion of transportation, and a place. 5. once you adult males bypass, be superb, relaxing-loving. 6. while it's time to take her homestead, say I had a superb time, you have been super, blah, blah, blah. 7.examine her physique language. If she's not smiling, and awaiting your next pass. you could in basic terms desire to call it a night. 8. If she's smiling, awaiting, twirling her hair, and making eye touch or maybe even averting it, yet glances at you each and every and each from time to time, then you definately provide her slightly %. on her lips. Then say bye and enable her go away. 9. wish that all of it went nicely in her techniques. 10. in school act universal(in case you definitely are in school). If the date is going nicely, you could attempt to pass issues to the subsequent point. Ask her out. 11. in basic terms say some thing like, i individually such as you. I definitely have for a on the same time as, i've got been debating with myself how and could I ask you out, yet now i've got made up my techniques. i individually such as you. Will you bypass out with me as my female buddy. 12. Pray she says specific!!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!! sturdy good fortune!!!!!!!
2016-11-03 22:33:04
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answered by ? 4
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Be casual about it and ask her to a movie and maybe bring a couple of other friends... if you think it went well with her ask her to go again but just make it you and her
I'm 16 too and I have the same problem with a girl that I work with.
2006-08-04 20:17:01
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answered by brandonr189 2
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Tell her that you like her. You'll find out real quick if she likes you or not and whether or not you should ask her out.
Say: "(name), can I talk to you for a minute? (Go somewhere where you can talk) So here's the thing. I like you. A lot. And I was hoping that you like me the way I like you. Do you?"
If she says yes, ask her out.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 20:32:30
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answered by c90 4
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Ok...im 12 female and just look for ways to give her little clues u like her...girl catch on very ealily...dont give her clues then a day later ask her out...give her time to talk to her friends about it...youll know when she catches onto it....then take her alone from her friends and just start a normal conversation and then just b like can i tell you something and please dont get mad at me....then just ask her out....thats wut most the guys did to me...and i know i fell for it....but if it doesnt work its not my fault...im just saying wut worked for me
2006-08-04 20:19:43
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answered by Bri 1
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Your young enough to afford bold moves.Be rejected or score. She will respect you for it either way.
2006-08-04 20:17:53
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answered by SKYE 2
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