I was having a little trouble getting my gf interested in dominating me. she says it isnt fun, can anyone give me some ideas, like games or whatever? I mean she likes it whenever she ties me in a certain way where i can barely move and when she scares me and makes me make a face, but that doesnt happen often, anyone got any ideas?
2006-08-04 19:50:28 · 4 answers · asked by penguin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just based on what you are indicating, it sounds like she pretty much knows what you are referring to. It appears that she can be a top in bondage with a little sadism but isn't into be a Dominant. Sounds like you've determined how far that she's willing to go in this.
The thing is that it is ultimately her choice. You can request and influence, but she in the final analysis decides what limits that she has. The only thing that I can suggest is to have an open dialogue about what you need and what she is willing to satisfy.
Sometimes one partner will do something with the other that they don't have an interest in, but they know that the other will get great pleasure out of. This is the art of a relationship. It has to work both ways, but if you work out a scheme that you and she can perform something solely for the other's benefit, then it should help out overall.
One last recommendation that I have is that if you are wanting to be dominated, start being submissive, meaning do everything that she asks of you that does not go against your own limits, even if it isn't thrilling at the time. That would be the influence, and you need not make it explicit. Just remember that being dominated doesn't mean having her do to you what you want her to do, but what she wants regardless of what you want. Who knows, she might actually begin to enjoy that. :-)
2006-08-05 03:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try dominating her so she will get the idea of how you want treated or get her a erotic dominating book let her read it
2006-08-05 03:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by jim h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure get some help
sex should be pleasure not pain
sex is to make the other happy not just your self
when you can make both happy then you are there
2006-08-05 02:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by judetip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her watch some bdsm porn with you.
2006-08-05 02:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by staindness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋