We've been on for 8 months, almost living together. He goes out sometimes( 2-3 fridays a month ) with his friends that he knows I won't go out with because of past issues. I feel that he's ignoring my feelings and he doesn't care about me. I feel uneasy and uncomfortable everytime he goes out with them. We had so much arguements about this and it's just exhausting me now, I don't even wanna talk about it with him anymore. I don't like this feeling of rejection anymore and I also don't like telling him what to do and not go out with his friends anymore. I know he won't do that for me and that I would look bad if I'll ask that of him.... what should I do?
2006-08-04 19:37:36 · 15 answers · asked by yodge_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what your "past issues" are. I'll assume his friends are jerks or something. Let me get this straight...he goes out 2-3 Fridays a month with people he knows you won't go out with because there's a problem with the friends. If you're like any normal young couple, you probably only really see each other on the weekends, so he's spending most weekends with the guys? Do I think you should break up with him? Since you've tried talking to him about how you feel and he's not doing anything to make you feel better, it's obvious that you are not his priority, they are. Do you want to date someone that doesn't put you first? There's your answer.
2006-08-04 19:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this is simply a trust issue I feel that there is no point of having a relationship where you don't trust each other. Too much time will be spent worrying and not enjoying each other. That doesn't mean you should trust everyone it means trust can be built and gained as the relationship goes on and if that trust if broken you should really think about whether or not you should be together depending on what broke the trust. So if your uneasy because of a previous event think about if you'll ever get over it, forgive him and stop using it as an excuse not to trust him because part of forgiving is letting it go.
2006-08-04 19:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to not judge him based on what he does with his friends (assuming that it's nothing harmful) when he's out, but how he interacts with you. I believe that he needs time for himself outside of your relationship, so I recommend letting him have that. Just ask that he not discuss his time outside with this group with you as it is something that you do not wish to hear.
Other than that, it's really how you feel about him. If you cannot look beyond the group that he associates with, then you should amicably withdraw from the relationship, although I feel that would be a shame for that to happen.
I wish you well in whatever path you choose.
2006-08-04 19:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is having his men- to- men talk, meet up with your girlfriends and enjoy yourself too. Or better still, sign up for some courses (cooking, yoga, etc), go to the gym or go for religious studies on every Friday to keep yourself occupied. Each of you should have time and space on your own. Just because he is with his friends, it does not mean that he does not care about you. Cheer up!
2006-08-04 20:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by gchezmoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to run a man off argue with them. Men do not like to listen to nagging all the time. Either leave the relationship or put a smile on your face and try to get along with his friends. You might find something about his friends that you like, or he may realize that his friends can not compare to you.
2006-08-04 19:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys can't see eye to eye on such a simple issue, then the writing is certainly on the wall. The relationship is going nowhere fast! You can't change him & he can't change you. If there's no satisfactory compromise, it's probably best to find someone who's more like you when it comes to staying in on the weekends.
2006-08-04 19:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by ModelBehavior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs their own space..
As long as u know about whom he is with it should be OK..
It will be alarming if he is with the people about whom u do not know and he is not willing to disclose..
U try and find out ways to make your own space more meaningful.(friends..reading..)
Give your relationship little more time to mature..
2006-08-04 19:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by kulkarnidg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant u agree with him.if u think like this misunderstanding takes place which is not good for both.u can understand his feeling also no.if he 'll be alwys with his friends sparing no time for u then u have to think abt it.bt i think so u can go with him if u change.d it n see.
2006-08-04 19:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by vini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over your insecurity, chain him up in the basement, or learn to forgive his bro's for whatever they did and bring a pal of your own. if you are this stressed over him not wanting to bend to your will then let the dude go...the issue here is control and you gots to get a hold of yourself first, he is not gonna change.
2006-08-04 19:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by A Big Monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him have his space, and some time with his friends...you have the same time to spend with your friends, or to do whatever you like, you need to have time apart, but if it gets to be a problem like more time apart then start looking for someone better...
2006-08-04 19:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋