ive been in a relationship for a while now, with a guy i really care about...but can't get any farther than friendship. im not offering, that "we can be friends anyway" but he really likes me and that's all i can do so he could be better about this. i broke up with him today....and he was very sad. i dont want him to do something scary, he has mentioned cutting before...but never like threatening to do it if i break up or something. just like a comment. and i worry for him. the reason i broke up was b/c i knew that we liked eachother but in the long run nothing was ever going to "work" . i think i made the right choice, b/c if i had waited longer, i probably would have hurt both of us more. but i still feel sad. very sad. i dont want to take it back, because we've been throught the breaking up and getting back together phase, but i want it to be the last time it happens. and i dont want to make him feel like he's my toy b/c i care for him enough to know what will be best.
2006-08-04 19:15:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal for you to feel sad about this - I've broken up with a guy before and I was doing the majority of the crying...it will always be sad ending a relationship but I think based on what you said that you made the right decision. Dragging him along even though right now you know it won't work out would hurt him a lot more and make him feel like you lead him on - even if you just wanted to try and make things better. Just don't blame yourself if he is cutting because that is a personal problem and choice that doesn't include you. If you want to be there to help him out or suggest someone who can be I think that would be okay. I think it's good that you care enough to not want him to feel like a toy - good luck with everything, stay strong
2006-08-04 19:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you thought was best when you broke up with him. You have every right to be concerned about him and not use him as a toy. The fact that he cuts himself is not your problem. You can sugget to him that he can go see a counselor or somebody that he might be interested in seeing. Breaking up is hard to do but keep in mind that this particular experience will make you stronger so keep your head held up high and continue meeting new people if you want to. Good luck.
2006-08-05 02:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby
2006-08-05 02:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing. You've done your part and just be cool. He'll get over it.
2006-08-05 02:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by yodge_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its always hard to break up with someone.......sometimes harder than when they break up with you....if it is meant to be it will be...if not it wont.....you will feel better in a couple of days and so will he!
2006-08-05 02:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by brummy438 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, smoke sum weed and it will be alrite
2006-08-05 02:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋