I'm 19 years old and the reason we broke up a few months ago was because I was just starting a second job, i had summer classes, and i felt distanced from my family. I told her i wanted to work things out but we will have less time with each other. She said i was hurting her by wanting that and she decided to break up with me. When i asked her "wouldnt you rather see me a little less than now, than not at all?" she just said I was hurting her. So she decided to break up with me. Now, a few months later, I have found out that she has started drinking and partying more and I am very scared that I will lose her forever. She told her a couple of her sister's friends (guys) like her and want her (they are 22 and she is 19) and I really got sad and upset. I dont want her to be flirting with a bunch of guys. I can't have a relationship right now because of how busy I am but I want to have a committment together so we can have something in the future. What should I do??
2006-08-04 19:15:31 · 10 answers · asked by whoa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're never gonna get her... move on.
2006-08-04 19:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want attention all the time and if they can't get it they'll move on. Understanding your current job/school situation, you have to understand hers also.
You guys have already broke up, so as far as her hanging out with other guys you've got to let her do this. It also sounds more like you've got to hold onto her because you don't have time to find someone else.
In all honesty man, if you love her, let her go. "If you love something, let it go, if it comes back it was meant to be". I know that's hard, but you've got to do that.
If you want to keep her: Just keep in contact with her, call her every once in a while just to ask how she is. Send flowers every so often and try to get some time in with her when you can (movies or something).
2006-08-05 02:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by mike! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very sincere and really love your girlfriend. I think you should talk to her again. However, it takes 2 hands to clap. If she still does not want to treasure this relationship, just move on. You will get upset for a while, but just concentrate on your job and classes. You are still young and will find your soul mate one day.
It is her loss. Not yours.
2006-08-05 02:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by gchezmoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young. You don't need to be in a committed relationship and it looks like she doesn't really want to either if she's already out having fun. If she can't understand where you're coming from instead of adding onto your stress, then maybe it's better to just let her stay gone anyway. Just focus on yourself.
2006-08-05 02:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am a bi female so i understand about the gf thing. well sunday me and my gf broke up. we're both married and have open marriages so that we could be together. she broke up with me cause she said she had somethings she need to work out with her husband.
all i can tell you is i am trying to get her back cause i really love her and i followed my heart to come to that desicion and i think you should do the same
2006-08-05 02:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Emsdal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things. Tell her how you really feel and see how she feels about it. Also remember when you love somebody sometimes you have to let them go, but if they come back then it means so much more. (Part of a song also In My Mind-Heather Hedley).
2006-08-05 02:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL SHE SHOULD OF BEEN ABLE TO UNDERSTAND I MEAN AM 18 AND I AM WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR FOUR YEARS AND HE HAD TO GO TO COLLEGE 2 HOURS AWAY AND I DONT EVEN SEE HIM ONLY WHEN HE COMES AND VISITS BUT ANYWAY I STOOD BY HIM AND SUPPORT HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM AND I WOULD NEVER GO PARTY BECAUSE HE LEFT OR HAD TO GO DO SOMETHING FOR HIS FUTURE SO THINK ABOUT IT IS SHE WORTH IT AND IF YOU FEEL SAD GO LOOK FOR HER AND TALK . AND IF SHE DOES NOT LISIN SHE WAS NOT MEANT FOR YOU.
SORRY FOR WRITTING SO LONG
BUT GOOD LUCK
2006-08-05 02:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by ANGEL BABY GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want her back that bad...well i think you should try and telling her. but if she's making you put your most important priorites aside, then i think there is someone more understanding than that out there for you...you sound like a really sweet guy. you should try to work things out again =)
2006-08-05 02:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-05 02:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go and you will resolve your stress
2006-08-05 02:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋