Could you fall inlove with someone you weren't sexually attracted to?

Question

this isn't about me. guess i should have categorized it under polls and surveys.. my mistake

Answer 1

I guess i have to say NO. everything starts with attraction. The spark that we call is that thing that signals your brain to like or love this person. friction occurs when two things gets in contact and how do two things get in contact if not by attraction?

Attraction can be induced by physical attributes. once you see a beautiful person you get to like this person instantly.

there are also other ways by which you can be attracted to a person. personality for instance.

Sometimes being in constant companion with a certain person triggers attraction. thats why friends can fall in love with one another.

however, love can be governed by so many things. It can not be ruled over by attraction alone. Sometimes, when we get attracted to a certain person, there are certain aspects that repell us away from this person.

Answer 2

I'd say to a point. I think it's really hot when a woman has a certain job tittle, like a nurse, nun, or yoga instructor. I always think of having sex with them in their job. I think women are also attracted to other things, like the size of your cock, the car you drive, what you look/smell like, clothes, or what you portrait socially. I think there are a lot of aspects to attraction. Just think about the other way around. People (men and women) could be attracted to an obtainable leverage of some sort from someone else offering an opportunity. Take an example: A younger guy in his 20's that has sex with a woman in her 40's because she buys him alcohol/clothes/ whatever else he wants. Having experienced that, I'd say it's a lot of fun, and the women enjoys it as long as you make her *** multiple times. Sometimes people's lives suck/ are boring and there is something fun to be had by somebody offering already. If you don't take the opportunity, somebody else will. An example: A young hot wet lady looking for a guy to stick his penis inside her, and you happen to be at the right place/time. Are you going to say no? Women are no different. Maybe they perceive somebody with a high financial ranking type job as somebody that can grant a lot of freedom for fun and affluent things, which is generally true. Also these types of guys have more opportunities to have sex so it's not as much of a big deal to them. This makes these guys more confident in the way women want, hence more attraction is between them. It's all about the feast/ famine phenomena, those who have get even more, and those starving, starve more as they are clearly not good providers. Goes back to the cave man days. Men are just as bad, so don't feel left out if you are starving. If you want to feast on beautiful sexy women bad enough, you will have to earn it as they are a huge minority (<2%) and you have to be the equivalent minority. ( ie get a degree, invest money, get a real career, buy a nice car, own property, get ripped, chill out, and learn to be easy going) If you can't handle that, then it's just too bad. This is not a woman's fault, there are just better men willing to offer more for less ( goes back to not saying no to a hot opportunity. ) It sucks, but this is reality. Men and women aren't very much different than each other. If you want things to change, you only have the power to change yourself. ( ie stop trying to get the hot sexy girl ) If not, do the above.

Answer 3

Of course. Sex and Love are not the same thing. Just because you are sexually attracted to someone it doesn't mean that you love them. A lot of sexual attractiveness is visual and instantaneous. When you love somebody you find other qualities from the heart that arouse. Then things like his concerns for you, his compassion, his ambition and his goals are things that will attract you then. The biggest turn on is when a man wants to make love to you because he actually loves, respects, and wants only you. Apparently you haven't yet found true love .......

Answer 4

I dont think so... I think that sexual attraction is a large part of being in love... at least inintially

I think that it is different for guys though - is seems that we fall in love with the women we are attracted too...
and I have know many women that find themselves becoming attracted tot he men that they are falling in love with...

I couldnt see having a relationship though if I wasnt attracted sexually to the other person...

...I guess that makes me shallow....

Answer 5

My honest answer would have to be "no". i have tried dating men that were not sexually appealing to me for one reason or another and it just wasnt there. i am a very sexual person, so unfortunately it is important for me to be sexually attracted to them. it is quite a shame, b/c some of them were so nice and giving, but we were just better off friends.
And just b/c you are married my arrangement, doesnt mean that you will EVER fall in love.
hope to have been some help.

Answer 6

Has this happened to you? Or is this simply rhetorical? In an ideal world, love and sexual attraction are best experienced as one. The problem lies in finding an ideal world.

Answer 7

It can happen. Maybe the sexual attraction will come to you later on

Answer 8

This is precisely how arranged marriages work, dear.

It only depends on how long it will take for the love to grow

Answer 9

Love is not base on sex. I may not want to jump someone when I first meet them. But, I can see growing to love someone and loving the alone time, (sex). Why not??

Answer 10

no no and hellz no
You can love someone like a brother or a father if it's non-sexual
but "love" is about making babies and being married...that love you have to be sexually attracted.