learning disability and shyness with low self esteem do you have advise?

Answer 1

First know that you are not alone. My daughter who is a teenager has many of the same things. So it is really important that I give her alot of reassurance. The thing that really helped her out alot is that she found something that she really loved and wanted to learn, she began reading and I also learned about her passion for Japanese art and culture. What happen is that is was easier for her to learn in another lanuage, reading books printed from the back to front, and something that many others were not well versed about. With her learning, buying books, spending time in Japan Town in San Francisco, Ca., etc, people would begin to ask her about her bag which was from Japan, some of the books she was reading or a necklace she was wearing and the meaning behind it. Because she knew so much and is passionate about the art, etc, she felt more comfortable to speak to others about these topics. In time her self esteem grew because of the confidence she had on this topic. Everyone learns differently, I really feel that it's important that people understand that. We cannot expect everyone to learn the same or absorb information the same, many different factors play into learning. I want to let you know that many of the top executives in big business have had learning disabilities growing up, overcoming them is what gave them the strength to succeed. So find something that you really want to do or study or learn, then take your time learning it and get everyone and anyone who will help you to do this. In time you will have confidence in that area, then get involved in a group or program that does whatever you have chosen. Because you have taken the time to learn and feel passionate about whatever you choose, it will be easier to speak up and get involved. When people start listening and appreciate your knowledge for what you have chosen, you too will feel better about yourself. This takes time. But I believe that you can do whatever you decide. Don't take on two or three things, chose one thing that interest you and then find out all you can, by knowing one thing well and conquering one specific thing will give you the ability to move forward in other things and the future. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

My daughter could get the granddaddy of all awards for shyness & with her learning disability it was ruff going for her.
What I taught her was when she really had to step up and confront an issue then pretent you are soneone that can do it... Not crazy like "Carrie" or anything but someone you admire and knows they can get this thing out in the open
She is now a manager at a large department store.
(Can you hear how proud I am of her?)
You have to remind yourself you are just as good as the next person (Sometimes better!)

Answer 3

I recommend changing your perspective. Also, the people you associate with have an effect.

Okay, I say this as a person who has lived with a so-called learning disability all my life. I used to think I was stupid. I never fit in with the other kids at school. The teachers treated me like I had a disability. Then I started studying on my own terms, finding people who helped me feel like it was okay to be myself. Then I realized that it wasn't a disability at all, it was an advantage. I can learn several subjects at one time while preforming various tasks. I have an IQ of 129, and I realize that I'm worth something...and you are too.

Answer 4

Yeah. Try not to think of your disability much. You wouldn't believe how many people in our country are on some kind of drug to make life better: depression, etc, etc.

I also have a disability but it's not a learning one. But that's not important. Try to find a few select people that look your way or something. Spending time with others is very important.

Answer 5

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/23HX5

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 6

One can overcome shyness and low self-esteem, by getting involved in projects. If you like dogs, you can volunteer at an animal shelter in your city. You can feel comfortable with the dogs, as they are kind to you, and need you to take care for them.

http://www.ASPCA
http://www.SPCA.org (whichever of these organizations is is in you city.)

I suggest a dog shelter because you can "communicate," with the dogs, instead of having to communicate with people. Gradually, with the dogs, you will enjoy their company. Also, when you walk the dogs, people will stop you and ask about the dogs.

You, may feel comfortable enough to answer questions about the dog, and the animal shelter where you volunteer. I hope this helps. I think this is good for you.

Answer 7

Cognative Therapy.

Answer 8

Go meet new people, just don't be so self-concious about your disability. Just be yourself. Having friends improves your self-esteem trust me I know.

Answer 9

This page can help you.

http://phifoundation.org/happiness.html