I've never had a girlfriend before and am still virgin, I'm not so good when it comes to relationships and many people told me that my low self esteem and lack of self confidence is my only problem, My good friend who's ironically an expert with girls and relationships adviced me to have sex with any girl as a recipe to overcome my problem, What do you think, should I listen to him?
2006-08-04 18:29:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it goes well especially the first time ,then it can have that effect on ones self confidence. Usually one the the two people would have to be experienced and patient with the "Newbie". If it goes bad, it might tend to discourage some, while most will keep trying until they get the "groove" going!
Now, having said all of that, it is not the first avenue of help that I would travel down, in order to help my self confidence issues! I don't agree with your friend's philosophy. There is much more to having and maintaining a relationship than just having sex! And, you may or may not overcome your problem.
2006-08-04 18:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your self-confidence through something else. One thing I learned in life is that no one is particularly better than any other person that certain type of people should have monopoly to confidence. If you are living and breathing, you have the right to feel good about yourself. Try to see only the things that are good about you and work on improving those that you feel you could improve, even sex. But, don't just pick any girl and certainly with just a mind to use her as a practice. Find someone you feel comfortable with and could have relationship with if it led to that.
The inner confidence is something that is not from sex alone, even for men. It comes from deeper within. Start the practice immediately and start walking with your shoulders back and chin up high. Remember, you're not any less than anyone around you!
2006-08-05 01:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole life runs on two principles only
1. struggle for existence and
2. survival of the fittest
If you are existing in the life it indicates that you struggled and became one of the fittest person in the life.
There are thousands and thousands of dimensions of gaining confidence.
You may be confident in one field but may be defficient in others.
It holds good for every one who is living.
Sex is just like other basic needs of the body. Like Eating, breathing, sleeping etc. which you can Enjoy and can get relaxed from.
You can not gain self confidence by fulfilling any of them.
Sex is only for creation and recreation.
Have you ever seen an animal more confident after the sex. If you really want to be self confident Be feel proud the way you are living.
2006-08-05 02:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by capt j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could help you slef confidence, but ask yourself, is it the right way to go. Nobody is an "expert" with the men or women as far as relationships are concerned. Don't listen to him. Don't have sex unless and until you are ready(read that monogamous and married) especially with all of the STD's running around that you keep forever like old lugguage.
2006-08-05 01:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by savvyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. First off, everyone is different and that includes how they react to sex. If you force it- do it when you arent ready, it can be very uncomfortably awkward, a real bruiser and be a damper on your confidence and self-esteem. Some people just take longer at developing relationships, and that's ok.
2006-08-05 01:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by lfortier1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you don't have any or lack of self confidence I don't think that having sex would be the answer. I don't think it would be very enjoyable. You need to look within yourself and find out why you lack selfesteem and confidence and try to fix it. You cannot be truly happy with someone else if you are not happy with yourself.
Good luck!!!!
2006-08-05 01:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You have sex with a girl. Your tired as heck and the girl gets up and leaves.
Does that life your confidence?
There are alot of things that can happen, when you take that step. Sex is a big thing. When you use it to higher your confidence, your setting yourself up for pain. You can have sex, and feel more confident in yourself, but what happens when you have sex with a person that feels you werent good enough for them? What if they tell you?
Bad.
The only good way to improve confidence is improve how you see yourself.
2006-08-05 01:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, If the experience goes bad with the girl, nothing is ever going to replace your self confidence.
2006-08-05 01:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Trust me on this. When you start to like yourself it will show & girls will be attracted to you. If you have low selfesteem having sex with some could actually make it worse. You might get very attached to the girl & rely on her to make you feel good about yourself.
2006-08-05 01:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, it won't hurt and is a lot of fun and it will boost your self confidence for sure, especially with the ladies.
But use protection, for both your safety.
2006-08-05 01:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋