my boyfriend.. he's very dominative. we're only in highschool and he threatens to punch any guy that flirts with me.. and that's getting annoying. and i wouldn;t consider this rape.. but a few days ago he made me have sex with him and he keeps saying things like "you dirty whore! you're my little slut!" and he didn't even realize that i was crying. i haven't told anyone and i'm afraid if i break up with him he might hurt me or the people i love or even my next boyfriend?? should i move somewhere away from him? he's so minipulate.. i swear.. i feel used and gross.
2006-08-04 18:27:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're a wimp, put up with it
2006-08-04 18:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by lia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun I am very sorry to read of your abuse...Yes I am calling it what it is. You need to have a back up plan, have you considered woman's crisis? You can get counseling and backup protection. I feel this man is very insecure. If you are EVER pushed against your will to have sex that is rape and very painful. He needs counseling and help that is not your responsibility. You just need to take care of YOU. What he called you is emotionally abusive and hurts very deeply. I feel that you need to surround yourself with healthy woman right now. Get into a support group and you can do this anonymously. (800)656-HOPE. I hope this hot-line can help you gain some more support. Abuse runs in a cycle and it can only get more violent and dangerous. The worst that can happen is you get more isolated. It is your choice to get out. No one can really help you till you make that choice and do whatever it takes to get out no matter how hard it may be to do so. You may see in him the good things that you care about him when you wanna leave but to have courage to leave you can trust and believe that to love him and you is to let go. Take care of your fragile soul...God bless, I will have my church family pray for you for 30 days, OK.
2006-08-05 01:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You FOR SURE need to get away from him. It will only get worse from this point. If you are crying during sex because you dont' like what's going on...That's not good. That's terrible, actually. My ex (a few years ago) used to do things like that. He thought because I was his girlfriend, he was allowed to have sex with me whenever he wanted no matter what I said. I still think about that and it still gives me the creeps. I got away from him and thank god I did. you need to do the same.
2006-08-05 01:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need that. Just break up with him now. You will not be happy with him anymore. He's not treating you well. That's not love. Don't worry about him hurting you next bf or your relatives. That's his choice if ever... hopefully he will not do that. If he does call the cops! and let your parents know.
2006-08-05 01:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by yodge_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters your still young...But regardless of age no female deserves to be mistreated by no one! The first thing you need to do is talk w/a teacher or guidance counselor @ your school whom you trust... Most likely, yes the authorities will have to be involved..You also need to talk w/your parents..And I know that may be hard to do but you have to put aside your fears to protect your life...
You need to keep your distance from him as much as possible because you are not in a good situation @ all...But in order for anything to happen and for you to be safe is you need to talk to someone ASAP...Do not sit on this and let him talk you into staying because that's what abuser's do, trust me I know what I am talking about...
If you need sum1 to talk to you e-mail me if you want...Just be safe and please talk to someone immeaditly....
Take care of yourself....
2006-08-05 01:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mz. Sipp Sipp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, that behavior will get even WORSE. Heres what I think you should do, tell him how you cried while you were "in bed" together, tell him you feel used & gross & watch his response. If he truly loves you, this will make him very sad, if he gets angry or defensive, leave him right then. Good luck.
2006-08-05 01:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your parents?? It might be worth a thought. What about a school guidance counsellor??? You can't stay in the kind of relationship and be happy, its not healthy. Be careful and good luck to you!!!
2006-08-05 01:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, you don't need that in your life. No female should take that from and male. That is wrong. If I was you, I would leave him, but I can't speak for you. I just hope whatever you do, it's a good choice.
2006-08-05 01:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Peaches06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave his sorry *** no one should put up with that if i was there i would kick his little punk *** my self and yes it is rape no matter what u think call the cops and get out of the reltionship now before its to late
2006-08-05 01:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Toothpick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says that you are a dirty whore, maybe he means it, clearly you are screwing some guy that makes you feel gross inside, thats pretty whorish. wash out that **** with a douche and move on!
2006-08-05 01:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM FROM SRI LANKA...
HERE IS MY ANSWER
PHISICALY HE IS A MALE BUT MENTALY HES A WOMEN. WE CAN SEE THAT KIND OF MALE IN THIS COUNTRY ALSO. THIS PERSON IS TRYIN TO SHOW OTHERS THAT HE IS A MALE. BUT HE CAN'T BE A MAN. HE THINKS THAT WOMENS BODY IS A TOY FOR HIM. HE THINK ANY TIME ANY WAY HE CAN PLAY WITH IT. THESE KIND OF MEN ARE SO STUPID. I THINK HES PHISICALY GROWN UP BUT MENTALY HE'S STILL A CHILD.
BEST THING IS FORGET HIM
BYE -----
2006-08-05 01:48:53 · answer #11 · answered by hranasingha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋