ok,a year ago I moved to a different area and I cried for a week because i knew I would never see this guy I really liked .the wierd part is i remember him very clearly.this is wierd because i never remember how any one looks or acts or dressesor any thing like that but i remember him as if i saw him yesterday.and I can't stop remembering him cuz he seems to end up in my thoughts it's driving me crazy i want to forget .HELP.i'm so stuck that I can't go out with any one who asks me to.i use the "i can't I'm a lesbien" exscuse(sry to you lesbeins out there.)plz help.
2006-08-04 18:23:02 · 15 answers · asked by bobobobobobo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can remember and you can cherish your memories of him, but its best to move on. If you stick with the sorrow and all that, it will hurt you in the long run. It could take a tad bit of your time and emotional strenght but moving on is the best choice.
Even if there is a chance of something happening, its best to move on for now. You should never put your life on hold for another, unless there is like some contract involved and they are abiding to the contract.
Maybe dont go on any dates right now, but try to...get out. Be safe, but be around people. And sometimes people cant be around people during things like this, so take up a hobby inwhich you still have a life inbetween and arent falling into the "running away from your emotional problems" category.
I clean when im angry, which is a very good thing. I read when im bored. And i have stuff to do when im stress and other things.
Find out what makes you feel better and go with it.
2006-08-04 18:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal when you have unfinished emotional business with a relationship. I hope I don't offend you, but you still have "baggage" with this guy. And the way to set down those bags and walk away from them with no desire to go back and pick them up is by writing/journaling/confiding in someone your thoughts and feelings--not to him, though. Do you have a close friend whom you trust and feel safe with and will keep your confidence/trust? Use that person. Write a letter to him AFTER you've sorted through your thoughts/feelings "aloud" (by doing the journaling or writing--there is a difference--or talking with someone); but don't send him the letter. Do it for yourself so you can walk through this stuff and find the freedom and happiness you deserve on the other side. I hope that helps.
2006-08-05 01:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's justa guy that you like and not dated then you should definatly forget about him... There are plenty of guys out there.
And if also he likes you back and you both want to be together then you can always think about the fact that 18 isnt far away. You guys will be free to be together and live where you want..But for the time being you need to get out there and experience other relations before this whole situation ruins your emotional state..
2006-08-05 01:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by EricKing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to forget about him then you will. You are only punishing yourself if you hold on to him. If it is this hard to let him go then I am wondering if you really want to. If you don't want to then see about getting in contact with him. There has got to be someway to find him. Good luck.
2006-08-05 01:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its that serious you should contact him and let him know how you feel and that you think about him all the time- then cross your fingers that he says the same thing. you dont want to live your life wondring if he had felt the same way. this could be the ONE
2006-08-05 01:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by cupkakes82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK that you rememer someone like that so much- sometimes, I do too (even tho I KNOW I'll NEVER see him) It's OK- and eventually, you'll 4get about him... (or remember less)
2006-08-05 01:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u probably just love him its called love at first sight i remeber my first love clearly to and yes i had my heart broken my her so dont do that to him go back and see him or something cause he probably feels the same way about u
2006-08-05 01:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by izzymizzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just occupy your mind with something else. he's probably long forgotten you by now . time to move on no point on dwelling on what might have been.
2006-08-05 01:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by mescalin57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cherish the memories, but u have to move on in life i guess. how u do it is up to you... best of luck.
2006-08-05 01:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by bikax1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just water the flowers on his grave every day and you will feel better.
2006-08-05 01:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋