Ok so here it goes I have been living with a girl for about a month and a half and then three weeks ago we started dating. We have dated before about a year ago. Well anyways things are going well but anyways one of her friends well actually an old fuc& buddy and her have been talking lately and she says that they will remain friends and nothing more. I have been burned in the past being cheated on. She says she is going to remain froends with him which is fin but she says she will be at his house everyonce in a while and stuff and she promises me she wont cheat. I trust her but i have been burned in the past shouldI trust her what would you do?
2006-08-04 18:09:42 · 11 answers · asked by texman03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think u shld stop whatever relationship u have with her now... she has to make a choice.. its u or him, period. u dont want to be fooled around by this girl.
2006-08-04 18:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Encantadora14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what you want to. Maybe you shouldn't live with a woman you have only been dating for a few weeks. You might consider saving that energy for a more significant find. She doesn't have any effort or energy invested in you or your relationship, so it is unimportant to her if you stay or go. I would expect her to have sex with her old friend, and I would be prepared to leave. It's not a big enough deal for either of you tha tfidelity is a huge issue right now.
2006-08-05 01:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her for now but be cautious. I mean, if you are with someeone, you should not be doing this things anymore. You shld be considerate and just bne with the person you love specially that she knows that you had the experience in the past. If she really loves you, she should make an effort not to make you feel uncomfortable.
2006-08-05 01:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by yodge_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I nkow that the right thing to say is you should trust her but I'm not dumb or niave. Don't trust her! If you mean that much to her then she would respect your wishes! People are not trust worthy these days. Suspect everyone!
2006-08-05 01:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you relationship is young still, trust is earned not given...if you truely trust her then why r u askin strangers what you should think....when my hubby & i got togeter my ex was married but came lookin.... i had to tell him to go away cause it made my current uneasy....now my current can stand to be together with him without problems.....we have been together 11 years. it took time....we r all shaped by our past, but don't needlessly punish one for the others mistakes. good luck.
2006-08-05 01:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have no choice BUT to trust her. If you act like a raging jealous freak, then, you will push her away right into his arms.
2006-08-05 01:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her if your uncomfortable with her going there. cos i dont the way you feel bout it will change. it will only cause problems for you and you might harbour resentment towards her. i know i wouldnt like it, knowing that they used to get down. i couldnt never be friends with my girlfriends ex lovers. it would fustrate me if she was friends with them too. thats just me though.
2006-08-05 01:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me. Why would she have to go to his house? What does she mean by "stuff"?Get out now.
2006-08-05 01:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust her untill you have no reason to!! If she is doing something with him u will know
2006-08-05 01:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by ru2tipsy2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you really trusted her you wouldnt be asking this question. simple as that. good luck!!
2006-08-05 01:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋