She said he was a friend, and she use to tell me she was going over there to play parcheesi. I now find out they weren't. I was afraid our son wasn't mine, but she said they had anal sex so she wouldn't get pregnant.
2006-08-04 17:55:36 · 18 answers · asked by Nep 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a difficult situation because she packs my lunch everyday for work.
2006-08-04 18:00:47 · update #1
What the......?
Ignorance is Bliss possibly in your case.
2006-08-04 17:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by LNZ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one can really answer this for you. Each person handles everything different. One person might want to know every single detail. Another person might not want to know the details. You just got to sit down and ask yourself what do you really want. If you do want to know the details you gotta realize that is gonna put an image in your head you dont want. Trust me on that, I have been through it. I would get a paternity test to make sure, after all she did lie to you about him just being a friend. I believe trust is the most important thing in a relationship. It will take a long time to be able to trust her again. And honestly that is if you ever do trust her again. But seriously your best bet would be to sit down somewhere by yourself that is relaxing for you and run it all through you head before you decide if you want details. I hope I helped you in some way.
2006-08-05 01:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a liar.I can bet they weren't just having anal sex.But if she is gone it's best if you didn't know any of the details.This will only make you feel worse.Point is she messed around.You know this and it's all you need to know.If you
haven't done so, kick her to the curb.If you are
unsure about your son take her to court and have a paternity test and make her pay for it.
But don't try and find out about her and the other guy and how they spent their time together.That will destroy you.Move on and remember that "you can breathe again."
2006-08-05 01:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The less you know the better. It is a difficult enough situation in itself, why add to it with intimate details. This is something very difficult to even TRY to get over. You must REALLY love this woman or you are kidding yourself. And take it from a cheater.......Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater!!!!
Not only that, but she is only going to tell you what she wants to tell you, especially if she wants to make things work with you..Feel me??? Either way it sucks because not knowing is going to slowly eat away at you, and knowing will break your heart and it will f@#$ with your head.
Sorry about your situation and I hope everything works out for you:)
2006-08-05 01:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, there is no getting past it. Only hard work to get through this. Details will do you no good. Details will only give your mind something to agonize over. Get yourself into counseling and if she will go, her too. You have a son who thinks your dad whether you biologically are or not so a paternity test is irrelevant unless you divorce. You have a long difficult road ahead. I am sorry you have to go through this.
2006-08-05 01:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by schafer_mail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely get the paternity checked. If you find out he isn't yours, then, you can make the choice of whether to play the part of the father or not. As far as getting past it, I don't know. I'd want the details, but then, it would be hard to not think of that.
2006-08-05 01:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know everything that way i am not sitting up all hours of the night wondering what they were doing.. And i would get a DNA test done for ur son just to make sure.. if she was dirty enough to cheat then she was dirty enough to let him put it in more then the ash hole!
2006-08-05 01:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro your girl is a hoe!!! i am sorry, its not like it was a one time deal, and she was getting it in the asssssss!!!! what is she a porn star!!??? do you really think that you deserve someone like her to be doing that to you? you have been faithful i assume so why should you be with someone whos *** has been contaminated with some other guys d***!!! i dont mean to be so blunt, but you deserve more than that!! you know you do!! also get a paternity test, you shouldnt have believed her then when she said she was over there for strictly friendship reasons, why should you trust and believe her now?!?!?
2006-08-05 01:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt it hurt you to hear that she had to get anal sex?
dont bother with the details. make up your mind if you want to
forgive her or kick her out. ..not literally.
2006-08-07 15:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by helena2581 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww - that's too much detail. Better to leave detail out, if you really want to trust this person again.
2006-08-05 01:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you. For me, I would have to know certain details in order to be able to get past it.
2006-08-05 00:59:12 · answer #11 · answered by MB_Bailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋