I am getting tired of the old saying "nice guys finish last", what is so wrong with being good? Do women like being put down, pushed around, and treated like $%!#. I just cann't find it in myself to do that to them. I've tried and I just cann't find it in myself to be that way. I just feel bad when I'm rude to someone who isn't rude to me(especially when it's to a woman). Am I in the wrong for being too nice?
2006-08-04 17:47:12 · 11 answers · asked by peacefulwreck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not good to stop being nice. The whole bad boy thing is a load of crap. I love nice guys. In fact I like this nice guy at work. Just this week I had a whole cart of stuff and no guy in the room would help me in fact one guy just added stuff and didn't even bother holding the door for me. And when my crush saw me trying to get through with the cart he came fast to help me out. And I like him for being such a gentlemen. Women who like bad boys have no self esteem and can't get themselves out of the relationship and become dependent on the guy. I love nice guys. And I am thankful for that. So don't change at all. Because you don't want to be those guys who don't hold the door for a women. Because trust me there are not alot of guys who do that now a days. So keep your head up and be a gentlemen. And the girl will come to you. And see the nice guy that you are.
2006-08-04 18:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by biochick11220 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That saying is wrong and right at the same time. When certain females are at a younger age they prefer someone who is adventurous or someone they feel like they can change. As females get older they start to realize who they themselves are and what they would really want in a partner. So nice guys do finish last but we end up with the girl when all is said and done. I have played both sides of this fence and i regret the woman I have mistreated. I since have been the nice guy that I am and still looking for the right woman. Keep it up and one day when you least expect it the girl of your dreams will fall in your lap. P.S. Don't be too nice but try and be yourself. Girls don't want you to give them everything. They like the chase as much as we do so make them work a little. Relationships are all about compromising.
2006-08-04 18:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by TommyX16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nice, and then there is too nice. My cat is nice. The 'bad boy' likely has 2 distinct advantages over you. Number one: they exude confidence, which women love. Number two: they have a backbone. They can stand up to their women. By these two qualities, they take control of the situation. Women do not like being put down, pushed around, or treated like $%!#. But what they like less is having their butts kissed 24/7 by every other guy in town. Everyone likes to be pampered, but only to an extent. If you've never gone to a masseuse, try it some time. But imagine that pressure on your back 24/7. It becomes irritating.
2006-08-04 18:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by dfhggd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. She is wrong for not appreciating it. From one nice guy to another, stop it! There is nothing wrong with you for being nice. There is something wrong with the women that you are persuing. Where are you looking for these women at? I bet you are playing the nightclubs which is no good.
Most women who like the bad boys are the ones with self esteem problems. They grew up in a household where their fathers were either not present or they were cold and abusive towards them. They were also cold and abusive towards their mothers. These women grow up thinking this is how men are supposed to be. They see a nice guy who will treat them with loving respect, they see him as being weak or less than a man.
They also like the bad boys because they see them as being adventurous and bold. Bad boys may get the girl sometimes, but they don't always keep the girl. They most certainly don't make good life partners.
Take heart young man, you will find someone who will love and appreciate you. But being nice isn't enough. You also have to learn how to be romantic toward women. Niceness doesn't equate to romantic feelings.
2006-08-04 18:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are told not to push the red button.....you're going to push it. Everyone wants what they shouldn't. Girls want the bad boys.....well at first.....but eventually they kind of realize that bad boys won't make good husbands....and eventually they will look for the good guys. Don't worry....continue being a good guy.....and sooner or later girls will love you for it.
2006-08-04 17:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Androgyny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can figure out why a woman would prefer to be with a guy that will eventually beat her, steal from her & rob her of any dignity she has left, let me know.
2006-08-04 17:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by carl l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id rather date a GOOD boy. bad boys just get all over you it gets annoying. Good boys are my type.
2006-08-04 17:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bella N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad guys are sexy. they take adventure and theyre not boring.thats why and they like to spend money!
2006-08-04 17:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's usually the sluts that go for the bad boy (losers)
2006-08-04 17:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they usually have bigger cocks than the sissys
2006-08-04 17:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by natemanxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋