Well, my girlfriend and i have been having some problems recently, and things went from bad to horrible. I talked with her best friend to see if there was anything that i could do, but it ended up making things horrible because she did not appreciate me telling her friend certain things. Well, today she told me how upset she was that i was talking to her friend, so i called her friend telling her that i could not talk with her anymore because it was causing harm to my relationship, and i felt it was best for her not to call me and me not to call her. My girlfriend then called me extremely pissed off, telling me that i had no f***ing right to do that and that her friend would not even talk to her because she was upset at what i did. Well, it gets worse from here: she also asked me not to call her friend before i did it, but i stupidly did anyway. After she was so pissed off at me, she told me that she hated me, that i was her least favorite person, and that she never wanted me
2006-08-04 17:43:37 · 7 answers · asked by pilotmanitalia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to call her again, ever, and that she would call me if she ever wanted to talk to me again. I then, stupidly again, proceeded to call her friend again and told her that my girlfriend had no part in me not wanting to talk with her again, that that was completely me. I have not heard from my girlfriend since then, but i really do not want her to be so mad at me. What can i do to make it up to her? Right now, i am giving her space and time to figure things out, but i really want her forgiveness, and i really need advice on what to do. I am lost. What can i do?
2006-08-04 17:45:49 · update #1
Patience and respect. When she told you not to do it, then do not do it. That is the key. But at this current stage, I say, let time heals. Do not call, do not do anything. Yes you need patience. Let it go, and see how it develop. If she is coming back to you then you have her. However, there is chance you will lose her for good, but you lose her now anyway.
2006-08-04 17:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by teddybear1268 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now that I'm finished laughing at yo a** here is my advice to you. Seeing as though you were wrong on so many levels you have to show that you are sorry and that you are hurting; you have to show that the current situation is causing you so much pain; that you have never been so sorry in your life and that you would do anything to fix this. I'm not saying to call her crying like a baby but tell her that you are sorry a thousand times and that you were only trying to make things better. You have to be suffering; you have to be in a living hell. Just do this for a couple of days then drop off the map for a couple of days; do not contact her what so ever if she is still upset or acting like she is. After a couple of days contact her to see how she is doing but sound kind of sad but cool. Just start talking about normal things; like you would with a friend. If after about 10 mins the topic of you and her doesn't come up tell her that you have to go and that you will talk to her later. This phone call should be done over the weekend like around noon. Then call her again at night and just tell her that you miss her. Just see how things go from there.
2006-08-05 01:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by makeherwett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That is bad. First off, since you seem to already know what the problem was, I would say write her a note, or an email. Cross your fingers and hope she doesn't delete or rip it up. If she does rip it up, wait a few days because you know she still doesn't want to talk with or see you. If she doesn't, then try to call her. Explain what you did, and that you know you did something wrong, and that you really want her forgivness and that you are really really (times 365) sorry. If she cusses you out, wait another couple of days, then call her again. If not, ask her what you can do to help out the situation and if you can see her again. BE SINCERE! Hopefully, everything will work out fine! (Even if you don't take my advice) Good luck!
2006-08-05 00:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by noircorazon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, and I'm sorry. I hope your girlfriend will cool down eventually. I think the best thing to do now would be to write her an e-mail or send her a letter apologizing. Don't call right away. The other possiblilty is that things might not go back to where they were. I have been there, and it is really hard, but if it does happen, remember that the pain will get better in time. Good luck!
2006-08-05 00:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just wait for her to calm down. You are giving her some room, give her more. If she is really that upset as to not wanting you, then learn from this experience and move on.
Good luck.
2006-08-05 00:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo have to fix this on ur own.
ur in deep S**t
2006-08-05 00:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by MRP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I think you are very very very young.....
2006-08-05 00:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋