What do you know about your spouse?

Question

At my friend's wedding the preacher said that couples should know everything about eachother. Then asked the bride what his favorite desert was and the groom what her favorite movie was. Neither knew the correct answer. I realized I didn't know my g/f's fav movie and after talking to others at the reception hardly anyone could answer the same questions. I think that it was wrong of the preacher to ask on the spot questions. Is side info like that important in a relationship? Also I was wondering if anyone else could answer the questions?

Answer 1

mine died last night. i don't know what his last wishes were... so i just left him in his recliner.

Answer 2

You should know small details about your mate. Favorite color. How he likes his steak. What kind of sneakers he prefers. Favorite music. But these things take time to get to know. It's not like there is a questionnaire that you complete on your first date. But over the course over time as you continue to see each other, you pay attention to the small details. I know the answers to some of those small questions. But I have been with my husband for 12 years. And I am still discovering things about him. Is the side info important? I guess not, but you could make your g/f feel very special if you do know some of the side info and are able to express it to her when the opportunity presents itself. The preacher, however, was out of line for putting the couple on the spot like that. He could have potentially turned what was supposed to be the happiest day of there lives in to a miserable evening.

Answer 3

The whole point of a long lasting relationship is not knowing the trivial, but the vital. I don't know what my wife's favorite movie is, but I know she loves it when I do the dishes without being asked. Or that it turns her on when I take the kids off her hands for a few hours.

There would be no mystery left if you knew everything about your mate.

The preacher mat have been trying to make the point to continually learn about you spouse, because you can never really know everything.

Answer 4

I can say that Preacher him self is not knowledgeable.
It is not necessary to know everything on each other.
It takes time and it needs observation that too minute observation.
I developed the technique of Observation, after reading Sherlock Holmes series written by Sir Orthor Conon doyle.
My wife was a natural observer and she understood me fast. But in my case, i took much time. But, it is good to know any thing and every thing about one another. It helps you to understand each other and it gives and enhances happiness in your every day life. This cannot be answered on the spot. The Preacher is wrong and better ignore him for his ignorance. Now I know everything of my spouse, but she is no more ( She died a year back and she was the best wife, my best friend and the best human being in this world)

Answer 5

Fave dessert of his, Creme Brulee, His fave film "Gettysberg" the civil war film.
I geuss the people getting married were kinda put on the spot, but look how many people marry without knowing each other and then divorce.
I personally think those q?'s should have been asked in private, not while the whole family and friends are watching.
So in conclusion I think yes you should know the answers to the question, but you need the privacy in which to answer.

Answer 6

This pastor was totally out of line!
Whether anyone knows this or not, it was totally unapproiate to put anyone on the line like that. It was totally insensitive.. The pastor needs to say he is sorry to the groom & bride.
What a downer to an otherwise wonderful day.
Let this be something to laugh over in the future. Every wedding has something to laugh about.

Answer 7

I think small information like that (fav movie, desert, how they like their hamburger made, how they like their bed made) is good stuff to know b/c it can probably come in hand at some point in the relationship (thoughtful gifts or what not) or it could be something you both love/hate that you can appreciate togeter and if you don't share it, it's just another feature of that person, but it's definitly not required. Knowing your better half hates your favorite ice cream flavor or likes to eat their pizza a certain way is not a relationship ender. and yes, i think it was stupid for the pastor to humiliate the couple like that. as for me, i don't know my boyfriend's favorite desert (but I know he hates cherries) and i don't know his fav movie (but i know he loves jet li movies). this information has served me well.

Answer 8

I think those are trivial details, and I agree that the preacher shouldn't have done that. I also think if you know literally everything about each other you'd get bored pretty quick. I think it's more important that you have a lot in common and love and respect each other.

Answer 9

I think it takes a life time to know someone...To really know them is a long process...But, if your at the verge of marriage and a long term relationship then the least that you should know is your partners favorite movie, dessert, junk food, flower...etc I would think that you were together enough that you would pick up on that sort of small stuff....Because it takes all those small things to make it through all the big stuff...

Answer 10

It doesn't matter if you don't know their favorite movie or their favorite dessert. It is important that you know when they come home from a bad day if they need a hug or some distance. It's important to know what will make them smile or laugh. It's important to know what they're passionate about (besides you). It's important to know what their biggest dream is. All of those things kinda make "Star Wars" and homemade chocolate cake sound insignificant, huh?

Answer 11

I've been happily married for 31 years next Sunday and I have no idea what my husbands favorite movie is. Not knowing everything keeps it interesting and always gives us something to talk about.