Can I close my eyes forever?

Question

There are times I wished I would never wake up again. Sometimes the sadness is too overwhelming. I miss the one that I would have gladly spent the rest of my life with, but she was needed in Heaven. Months have gone by; I am suppose to cope with this. I would never take my own life because it would make God sad and make my Ari sad; it is difficult to deal with this life at times. I want to sleep an endless sleep...can I close my eyes forever?

Answer 1

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I lost an old friend last year. I didn't know I even missed him until I knew I would never see him again.

I cannot compare my situation to yours. I know I was very sad for a long time though I had not seen this friend in many years. I can only imagine how you must feel.

I believe that a person who has survived the loss of a wonderful person owes a duty to share with the world the things that were great about the one lost. I think of my old friend frequently. I remember all the wonderful things that he was and try to bring him to the present by becoming more like him in the ways that he was wonderful. The memory of him reminds me to live by the values we shared.

Whatever made her so wonderful as to be worthy of your love and devotion, you carry it on by remembering her, by remembering the things she did for you, and by remembering the good times you had together. It's your job now to take those memories and make something of them in the present.

Your beloved must have been a wonderful person to have earned your love and devotion. It must be an incredibly difficult loss. Open your eyes tomorrow and do just one thing that lightens your burden. Then do one more thing the day after tomorrow and each day thereafter. Someday, it will become less overwhelming.

Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 2

Sleep will come in its own time. I have never felt what you are at this time but I am sure the pain is unbearable. Be assured that your Ari is only sleeping for a moment and will soon she will be in heaven because she was prepared to leave us. You can cope with your pain by involving yourself with other activities that will keep you preoccupied rather than hurting yourself by thinking of seeking "sleep", you know that this is not possible if you plan to one day see Ari, she is there sleeping and one day she will be with the Father and so you must stay ready by not straying way from God's word; it is up to you to stay firm in the faith and get there. God has said that He will nerver leave us alone and He does keep His promises but being human we still hurt for those that leave and He knows this but wait and He will respond to your need. Ari believed and in this she will enter heaven--1Jn. 5:12. Do not allow the enemy hurt you and pull you away from God, he is a theif and he will use your pain to achieve his goal. Keep strong. Remember it is okay to cry. Have you heard the songs--- You don't Leave Me Lonely or I'll Not Forget You by Bryan Duncan---his songs reveal the pain of losing someone so special. Pray a little prayer and ask God to heal you even when things look so dark. Keep the faith little brother.
Write a letter to Ari, tell her how you feel at this moment and how you miss her, roll it up into a tube and tie it to a helium-filled ballon and let it sail; you do not have to sign it.GBY

Answer 3

I can understand how much pain u r going thorough. the life is realy tough sometimes but u have to cope with that. there wil be a time in ur life when u will be proud of urself ,so why do u want to sleep forever?
u cant die unless God wants u to die..its really funny that we cant escape the pain of this life. there is no door through which we can leave this life..it only depends on God.So dont lose hope,and make a brand new start of ur life.

Good Luck and Best wishes.

Answer 4

You should talk with a grieving counselor. You need to deal with your grief and depression in a constructive way. Have you thought about what Ari would want for you? Is there something that Ari did or loved that would make you feel closer to Ari? Say for instance Ari loved dogs, you could volunteer at an animal shelter. Remember the family and the loved ones that you have here, live your life fully, that is what Ari would want for you, to be happy and live with Ari's memory close to your heart. Good luck, I'll keep you in my heart and prayers.

Answer 5

Wow, woe's you. Guess what? We are surrounded by sadness. Most people have it worse than you. But you will never ever get any better until you stop beating your own drum. You had a run of bad luck, so have I, and everyone else that is an adult in the entire world. So what now? Brood over it? Tell as many people as you can to solicit pity? Or maybe you should get over it, and focus on the parts of life that make you happy. Either way, you need to get over this need to make others feel pity for you. O' woe's you.

Answer 6

You can close your eyes forever if you want to take a chance on missing the next good thing that comes your way.

We all experience loss and while it is very painful, human beings are very resilient, we bounce back, we love again.

Grieve while you must but believe that it will get better and you will be happy again.

If you loved Ari this much, you will never stop loving her but you may find someone else to love.

I'm sorry for your pain, but I wish you all the best and hope you find true love again.

Answer 7

I would like to seriously suggest that you see your doctor about depression. I have had to do this same thing myself recently. While I was not suicidal I was not taking care of myself, and getting sick a lot. I was committing slow suicide. Now I am mending. But I recognize your feeling. I used to cry when I woke in the morning because I wanted so badly not to wake and have to face another day.
There is help out there and you can have a full life that will have happiness in it again. Ask for help. Please.

Answer 8

There is no answer to this question here... It is inside of you. I will not tell you, "time will heal your pain," or "he/she is in a better place," or any of the many things people say when they try to help but cannot. Only know that you are not alone. In this situation, the only thing that has helped me somewhat is to remain busy, learn more about yourself and the world around you, seek out friends and family, and live every day as if it's a precious gift....

Answer 9

Allow your heart time to heal from your great loss. Anytime a loved one dies, the sadness can be overwhelming. It's important to try to look forward, and get back into enjoying your life again...spending time with friends, doing things you enjoy doing, etc. You will never forget your love...they continue to live on in your heart and memory. Take time to heal...find inner peace...and move on. I wish you the best

Answer 10

First of all I don't know why people who believe in God and Heaven morn the loss of a loved one...they were called by the almighty right? So you are really being ungrateful to your loved one by wishing her back in this **** of a world and not with her god. Second of all, I'm not in charge of your nervous system nor do I need to be. Third of all, therapy does wonders. Medications can be given.