often discuss our events of the day. I share my experiences of getting around and getting things done without transportation. He says, well that must be hard for you but he never offers to give me a helping hand. I would give him gas money but it never occurs to him that he might be able to help sometime. We went out a couple of times and had a good time and we talk everyday for hours in the evenings after I get home from work. He mentions things going on in his town but never suggests coming over and picking me up and us going there together. He seems to have time to go out of town to visit family but can't even find a couple hours to come over to take me out. I don't know why I can't find a guy who believes in normal dating. If he just wants to chat online, he could do that without joining a dating service. Is he just insensitive or dumb?
2006-08-04 16:52:44 · 12 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, he lives 30 or more miles away and that's way too far for you to expect him to drive you to work. It sounds like he likes you, but he might find chatting more comfortable and he might actually be afraid of a closer relationship--which is not to say a closer one would not work out, he just needs to get over that hurdle. Personally, I don't think women should expect guys they date to take on responsibility for them (such as giving rides) until they've reached the point of living together. "Dating" does not mean "commitment."
2006-08-05 05:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by rajkumar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO he really is B.S. if he have not came your way its because he thinks he is going to be ask for something which is a very good sign that he has a degree in what he does he is more selfish not dumb cut his but off on that tip dont even began to think that will go somewhere other than talk
2006-08-04 17:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by sexysummer34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He says, well that must be hard for you but he never offers to give me a helping hand."
.....do you think to ask for help?
"I would give him gas money but it never occurs to him that he might be able to help sometime."
........does it ever occur to you to simply ask?
"He mentions things going on in his town but never suggests coming over and picking me up and us going there together."
........do you ever suggest that he comes over to pick you up, etc.?
"He seems to have time to go out of town to visit family but can't even find a couple hours to come over to take me out."
.......so, tell him what you want!
"I don't know why I can't find a guy who believes in normal dating."
.......it could be your ineffective communications and very bad self-esteem.
"Is he just insensitive or dumb?"
........he's not the problem. your poor communication and bad (low) self-esteem is the problem. get some self-esteem training and learn to SPEAK UP and ask for what you want.
2006-08-04 17:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be either. i'd say be more direct with him...most guys DO NOT understand subtle hints. just tell him that you'd love to give him gas money in exchange for a ride sometime. and ask him what he really wants--a phonepal-since it doesnt sound like you guys actually ever see each other-- or a real friend or possibly girlfriend. figure out what his intentions are so that if they're not what you'd hoped, you won't waste your time with this questionable guy any longer
good luck!
2006-08-04 16:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men sometimes need to be told. I have difficulty myself knowing if a woman is interested in me. Maybe you should give him a little push. If you tell him how you feel, and he still backs off, he probably just wants to be friends.
2006-08-04 16:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that he is really your friend. Friends don't leave friends hanging! Maybe you should try finding another friend that actually cares about you and doesn't just want to talk on the phone.
2006-08-04 17:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THE PROBLEM MAY BE IS THAT HE THINK OF YOU
AS JUST THAT A FRIEND, THAT GET TOGETHER, TALK
ETC, BUT IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR MORE FROM HIM
THEN I BELIEVE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL
HE MAY JUST DONT SEE YOU LIKE ANYTHING ELSE,
SO MAY YOU NEED TO GIVE HIM A HINT OR TWO, IF'
THAT WHAT YOU LOOKING FOR,
2006-08-04 17:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-04 16:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just dumb sweetie. Get rid of him.
2006-08-04 16:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Squeak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋