how can u keep it going? my b/f and i just cant seem to keep the spark going. we try it one way and then it just doesnt work that way anymore. he cant seem to stay hard. he always going soft right when we start and wont go hard. please help and please be serious. we have tried diffent positions but nothing seems to be working?
2006-08-04 16:43:32 · 17 answers · asked by horses19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TRy watching porn or try throwing someone else in the mix
2006-08-12 16:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by frog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex drive is about the relationship more than the physical act. If you jump into it, he's less likely to stay up. He might want to abstain for a few days so he'll be feeling the urge again. If he has a medical condition (like age) he might need to take Viagara on an empty stomach 1.5 hours beforehand.
Make sure your relationship is in order and you both are feeling happy with each other. Also, focus the play on your needs and touching you. If he gets up, he gets up. If not, it's no biggie since you've stopped making the act the highlight of the evening.
2006-08-04 23:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tony T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my bo had the same issues and the one thing i can say for sure is if u put that much worry and effort into it, it only stresses you both out more so i guess I'm saying try not to try so hard...also it really helps to get things going if you go out and get loose and have a few drinks...It would ease up the tension a Lil. Oh! 1 more thing, maybe u should try seducing him in a foreign place other then the home or the bedroom....men love that....Good luck sweetie.
2006-08-12 17:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by eve11en 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how old is he
i mean if hes over 40 or something that could be the prob let him take viagra
if not try given him a bblowjob that turns ANY YOUNG GUY ON!
or just give him a hhandjob that works too
talk dirty or something
and if that doesnt work then it's not u it's just him and maybe he could see some doctor or something to c wats going on!
alright?
~hope that helps â¥
2006-08-04 23:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you can not. or Better DO NOT THINK ABOUT IT IN THAT WAY.
You need feel that he is the best that you have been.
and maybe show to him how you like make love, When the most important and trying to work out things well. Go on and speak with him don't forget do exercise your appearence is very important you know SEDUCE your MAN and then HE WILL BE ON HIS KNEES
Good LUCK.
2006-08-12 14:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ninoska L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One it because you or your boyfriend has become bored with sex, make it fun, change thing up. Read up on the difference thing you can do together. Two, there a medical reason, that he can not stay hard.
2006-08-12 23:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by RLC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your drinking and have sex, your muscles tend to relax after awhile. Therefore causing less blood flow through the genital area. If your not drinking, your boy friend is gay and has no desire to have sex with you, but still tries.
2006-08-12 23:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by retsiemeop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 46yr old man with a beautiful wife of 25yrs old I still have that problem, try spontanious love intstead of organized, and dont get frustrated ask him to give you pleasure if he is unable to stay hard, reasurance is a big factor, if that dont help see your doctor as it could be something not mental. good luck
2006-08-12 21:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its the pressure to perform combined with a lack of desire. For instance, if one of you feels that the relationship is having troubles or isn't sure of things, or is feeling less attracted to the other, it will be harder to perform. Combine this with a demand for performance and you have the recipe for a disappointing evening.
2006-08-04 23:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by jeandupree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend needs to see a doctor.
2006-08-12 23:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Guilia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋