I had a bf and when we started going out i but we didnt see eachother for like 3 monlths and he made out with another girl. I just found out yesterday and im not sure if i should be mad or not b/c i think i would have done the same exact thng i just need to know how to deal with this. Im new at this and i need help!!
2006-08-04 16:43:07 · 33 answers · asked by jmgirl820 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first of all did you see him cheat or did someone tell you, and if he really love you he would feel guilty with another person and tell you the truth but if he doesn't tell you then he probably doesn't love you and it all a game. If you think he'll change and not cheat then stay with him but if you catch him cheating again then break up with him. Its you decision.
2006-08-04 16:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by baby gurl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on whether it was an "open" relationship or not. I mean, if your not mad then don't make an issue out of it. You said that you would probably have done the same thing??? this doesn't sound like a "commited" relationship to me. I'm just not understanding what it is that you are looking for. If it was me in your situation and my man kissed another girl I'd be pissed! However, before I married I was the player and when the guy II was dating found out, he usually left me. Most guys do not want their girl kissing others because to them women are more like possessions.
2006-08-04 16:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Delite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea maybe you wouldve but u didnt. just talk to him about it and if u really like him and still want to continue just tell him that your trust wont ever be the same and that maybe you guys shouldnt be together ne more unless you see each other more often. But if ur pissed at him and wanna leave then just be like this is not working out. If u felt u were getting lonely and needed another girl u shouldve talked to me about it. And breakup with him. But i guess when you dont see your bf or gf for that long a hookup is bound to happen, so i guess just try to understand him but be strong at the same time and let him know what he did was NOT COOL and that he shouldve talked to u about it first so that maybe u guys couldve realized that not seeing each other for that long was way too much and maybe you guys wouldve realized that u needed a break b4 it got to the point where he cheated on you..........
2006-08-04 16:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that's a good start to a new relationship?
I think you should move on... much better to start off with someone that can show loyalty and fidelity for more than the initial 3 months, regardless if you didn't see one another.
Isn't a relationship supposed to be built on trust? Shouldn't he have been trying to impress you at the beginning, you know, show you his ability to be faithful?
Any time you don't see him for a period of time, aren't you going to wonder if he's messing around? It doesn't matter if you THOUGHT about it, as we well know, thinking is a LOT different than doing.
I'd say bye bye to him. If you're new at this, you don't want to start settling for poor behavior... you'll develop a pattern. Set your standards higher, and that's what you'll receive.
2006-08-04 16:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look break up with him
and if u say that u would of done the same thing if u got the opretonity then that means u too arent ment to be
just stay friends with him
obviously u both don't have that much feelings for eachother
and time could easily seperate u apart
so forget about it and move on ok?
~hope that helps ♥
2006-08-04 16:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how long it has been. When you are dating someone, you don't go and makeout with another guy or girl.
What he did was very low and very dishonest.
My fiancee and I have been apart for almost one year due to unfortunate circumstances, but we still make a point to talk to each other every night and we are deeply in love. Neither one of us would THINK of making out with another person
2006-08-04 16:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you so concerned about? Chill. If you would have made out with another guy, the first guy isn't so special to you. Don't worry about things, they will just work out. It's not like you are getting married tomorrow. Avoid being a drama queen.
2006-08-04 16:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by kako 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in middle school then not seeing each other for three months is the same thing as breaking up. If you are adults then he sucks and you should drop him like a bad habit
2006-08-04 16:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation and I think hes a jerk. There are better guys that are honest and would care for you. I believe that in a relationship it is best to be honest with your partner, and cheating with others is breaking that bond. If your feeling down just remeber that their will be others out there that will care and love you and will not cheat on you, if they do their just losers. I myself experience similar situations and best to move on. Remeber this That everyone will find their soul mate, or that soul mate will come finding them. Hope this cheers you up.
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2006-08-04 16:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Justinfire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him kes being an ****** even if u woulda done the same thing he did it first and hes not being good to u so why have to carry around a dead weight just loose him. (and by the way ur good for being new @ this im new 2) peaces of pizza!!!!toottles
2006-08-04 16:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by -_- say poo and ill laugh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋