How do u punish your kids?

Question

I use a flyswater if she breaks a rule or piss's me off WACK I HIT HER on the butt till shes says she wont do it again if she does WACK 10 Swats, She breaks it again 20 Swats on the bottom and so on, What do you do? She hasent broke a rule in 2 mothes

Why would cps get involved went to court once THE JUDGE SAID i should be able to punish the child the way i wont as long as i dont hurt her!

Ask me i am being easy on em when i was a kid my parents used a swith and i went to school with 2 inch deep wounds i wish i was them when i was little if you dont punish ur kids by whipping them what kind of parents are you she gives me lots of respect, + when she is good she gets NO chores

Answer 1

Hi, I am a mother of 5 small kids, they range in age from 7 years old to 7 months! I have 3 boys and 2 girls. I also have a twin boy and girl who are 2 years old in that group.
My oldest son was totally different from his youngest brothers and sisters. You could threaten to spank him and that would pretty much make him listen, but when his twin bro and sis came along, threats were not good enough for them. They were totally more hard headed than he ever was, then on top of that, they are more hyper than he was! You have to do what is best ofr your child, and for your situation. Nobody knows your child better than you, I see nothing wrong in physically spanking your child. If the child is old enough to know better, or know when they are doing something bad, then a spank may be good for them to learn what no means. As long as you are not beating your kids to death, and not beating the heck out of them and leaving bruises, then I personally think it is okay. I have to spank my 7 year old, and I sometimes spank my twins. I simply can not use the time out system for my oldest, and my twins are very head strong and determined enough where a couple swats on the bottom with my hand helps more than if I fuss at them, or the verbal appraoch to discipline. There are simply some kids that time outs and taking things away won't work! The bible says spare the rod and spoil the child. I was spanked as a child too, I am still alive, and am very grateful that ,my folks cared enough to spank me. But then, that is the happy ending for my story,
what works for me may not work for everybody else?!

Answer 2

My fiance and I have two different ways of dealing with discipline but both work just matters when and how you use them, I have a routine and also have a few different ways to discipline if they are not listening then they get time out or lose a special priviledge, they may get grounded for not checking in or not getting along, sometimes will even make them both sit in a chair facing each other but out of each others reach and sit quietly for a short time, and My Fiance will do the same or he does the boardom thing like making them stand in front of him and keeps asking them why they are in front of him and after a while they are bored and then they can go but no matter what the reason for discipline we always make sure they know why they are in trouble and why it is not good and so on.

My kids are now 9 and 12 and both will help with chores most of the time, they help others a lot and they both will come to us if they have a problem even if they are in trouble, they dont steal, they are very polite most of the time and are always willing to stick up for thier family and friends and now they also will ask if something is wrong if they are not sure.

Answer 3

if you are parenting well you should rarely have to swat. I used to pop my children's hands. That was enough. That actually was the last resort. Depending on the age of the child, think about what he or she values. Is it playing ball in the yard? Is it a game? Punishment could be to take away or reduce that priveledge for a few days. That gets their attention more than hitting them.

Answer 4

I really hope you're kidding.

And if you're not, I hope CPS comes knocking on your door soon.

CPS should get involved because smacking your child with a flyswatter is abusive. It is cruel and disrespectful to your child and just teaches her that if you're bigger and stronger it's OK to hurt others. HITTING IS HITTING and hitting is WRONG! You are teaching her that it's OK for her husband to do this to her when she's a grown woman as well! Learn some other parenting skills instead of taking the easy/lazy way out!

You can raise well behaved kids without beating them.
And just because you don't leave welts on her doesn't make it OK.

Answer 5

I use my shoe or a ball peen hammer to the throat. they only make misakes once. If its been a while and they forget and do it again then they get cheese gratter to the knuckles.....LOL

No really, I just tell them no and let them know that when they do something wrong it disapoints me, and makes me feel bad when they do it. Then they usually dont do it again!!!! That will work for a few years then he'll do that **** just to piss me off... Then I'll have to figure something else out.... Its all trial and error


GOOD LUCK
P.S. That first lady is an IDIOT!!!!!!
and the lady below me

Answer 6

I start with a verbale warning if that don't work I take away the TV.She really hates that,that normally does the trick but as a last resort I will take my hand to that backside.But I have not had to do that in a long time.

Answer 7

1st of all you should give your child a stern warning that what he/she is doing is not acceptable. If child should break the rule again then they have a time out where they can't watch tv or play with toys. Third time take favorite thing away.

Answer 8

"What do you do? "

Not spank my child.

I discipline my child. Not hit my child.

I don't need to beat them til they are scared to get respect. I treat them as human beings and respect their bodies.

They don't respect you. They fear you and for that, they will rebell against you as they get older. You are an abuser who thinks hitting will solve the problem. Bad parenting skills. Actually, have no parenting skills.

I don't care if you or anyone else is offended by that.

Answer 9

im sorry but i dont see how parents can punish their children by hitting them with something....its like telling them its ok to hit...then they go off and hit someone and get punished for that...its crazy....i have nine kids my oldest in his teens..and i have never hit any of....they usually get the point that im trying to get across with a time out....or with my older kids taking stuff away from them....but really i see what you mean by being able to punish your kids as you want...my brother hits his kids...(spanks) and although i want to get involved i dont cause those are his kids....i just hope you dont go further...i think a lot of your problems comes from your childhood...

Answer 10

Whats wrong with you???? Beatings do not solved the problems or else it would have the first or second time you had beat her. Try going to anger mangement and parenting classes. Or turn her over to someone who won't beat the hell out of her.