2006-08-04 16:29:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-08-04 16:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is nothing wrong with being shy. I was always shy but have learned a few things about not being so shy. Try to go to as many gatherings, parties and so as you can, maybe start visiting nursing homes and old people this will help you to get a little more comfortable with meeting new people, then as time goes by it will get easier. You can listen to conversations and listen for something in thier discussions that maybe you can answer of advise on that may solve a problem, maybe an idea or an experience that may help another person. This is what I do and I find it very easy now but a while back I would not even say hi to anyone.
2006-08-04 23:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by mn01countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with baby steps--you don't go from sweaty palms at the thought of a party,
to giving a speech in front of a large audience--
Gotta crawl before you walk, right?
I have had experience with shyness and still do.
It isn't bad in and of itself, but if it's keeping you from things you want to do, then it becomes a problem.
Figure out a small, do-able goal that you could handle and build up to it if you need to.
Just a for-instance---"I will talk to one person today that I don't know and just simply say a "hi"."
You might benefit from therapy, even a short-term assertiveness training class (or book---check library)-it doesn't mean you're crazy--it could give you the support you need to get on your way.
Another thing--I find I forget I'm shy when I talk about things I am passionate and excited about...
Good luck!
2006-08-05 00:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by knittedworldorder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I read some of the answers on here now I`m going to answer. First and foremost you must realize that NO ONE is better than you! You aren`t better than anyone else either. Begin looking in the mirror and telling yourself how much you like yourself and look at all the attributes that you have and can offer others and be confident in them. Once you realize that you do have something to offer and that you ARE a likable person, and become confident in that, the rest will follow..That`s what I did. Good Luck!
2006-08-05 14:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Angel.Girl_7672 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some sort of course such as toastmasters. this allows people with the same issues as you have to come together and learn the art of self expression. there are other similar courses such as curseo, dale carnege etc. look in your community directory or at your community college calendar when it comes out and see what is offered. call your local mental health association office. they usually have lists of such courses. (doesn't mean you have mental health issues to be shy and need help with such an issues - it is a character trait).
be careful who you attach yourself to with regards to friends. often shy people attach themselves to overly loud people. then you NEVER get to express yourself. it is good to be aorund an extrovert but not too much so.
join things, volunteer. things where you can meet people. staying at home alone is not going to teach you to overcome your shyness.
2006-08-04 23:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be bold. When you are in a situation where you would normally stay quiet speak up. I was very shy and that is helping me to over come some of it. I also like to go into chat rooms. Like country chat talk to people about stuff the do not know you and can not see you so you can feel free to be open minded.
2006-08-04 23:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by alana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club. Don't be afraid of saying something dumb, because everyone does sometimes.
A little step to do is...
Next time you are at the grocery store, tell the lady in front of you that she as a pretty shirt, or tell that guy he as cool shoes, or if they are buying a food that looks good (ask them how does it taste - sweet, dry, better with milk, etc).
Try this a few times. You can tell if someone if mad, so don't ask them.
2006-08-04 23:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Xtal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your mind off yourself and on others. Try to develop an interest in the lives of others. Ask questions. Keep up on current events so you have something to talk about. Practice being in social situations. It takes time, but you can do it.
2006-08-04 23:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by David S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a teacher or re-define your purpose in life-- volunteer. If you have a given role to play, with specific behaviors which are required for the role, it can act as a catalyst for you to become less shy. Play the part, then become the part.
2006-08-04 23:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sci Nerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you would overcome the problem only by psychotherapy. Consult a good Psychiatrist.
2006-08-05 00:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ovaga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
little by little but it takes time i think. I express my feelings in drawings and paint some to. But they say shyness can be changed so....
2006-08-04 23:34:11 · answer #11 · answered by jered 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋