I am so shy that I often have trouble even speaking to guys...especially an attractive guy.
I am often mistaken for being stuck up or a *****, but I am so shy that I have even gotten nausea over speaking to a guy I like.
How do I get over this horrible shyness. It is getting in the way of me having a relationship!
2006-08-04 15:59:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-04 16:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by netnew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the past, I was very shy around guys too. What helped me was finally realizing that I deserved a great guy and that I didn't have to stress about not being in a relationship. There is no rush. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Most relationships end anyway, so don't be in a rush and don't settle. When you find the right guy, it will be easy to be yourself. Just stop looking and don't assume that this guy could be the guy just because he's a cute guy. Also talk to guys and just think of it as practice or trying out new topics of converation. Don't put pressure on yourself about needing to be in a relationship.
Most importantly, work on your self confidence and loving yourself.
I'm now in a 2 year relationship with a guy that I went to highschool with. I never would have guest that he was the guy. You never know what's going to happen or who will surprise you.
2006-08-04 23:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a shy girl should not be shy at all! Although you may be timid, you have the potential of getting an attractive guy. First, don't degrade yourself by calling yourself those horrible words, they're not nice! That's just going to decrease your self-confidence. Apparently, look at yourself in the mirror and smile. It's some psychological exercise, your self-esteem will accentuate and all that. I think the only way to gegt rid of this is to overcome your fears and go talk to guys.. a lot more, that's the only way you're going to gain confidence in talking to men.
Best of luck!
2006-08-04 23:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try interacting with people in no-pressure situations in mixed groups -- preferably in places and situations where no one is expected to pair off. Practice interacting with guys as just guys rather than as potential love matches.
It helps if you can focus on common interests -- you'll be more confident talking to a guy about a subject that you know something about. Or try the opposite approach; find something that you don't know much about but are interested in learning, and let a guy teach you (this puts the burden of the conversation on him, thereby relieving your shyness). Either way, the only way to get over social anxiety is to be social. They're called social _skills_ for a reason; they only get better with practice.
2006-08-04 23:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too. I was a very shy young girl. But when I let myself go, I found that lots of guys found me attractive because I wasn't afraid to be what I was: smart, funny and modest. The girls you see on TV...you know the loud, obnoxious, over-sexed barbie dolls are just an illusion. Don't put yourself down for being shy...just thank god you aren't longing to be like then because they're super annoying. My advice is to be outgoing, friendly, and true to your own personality because if you're forcing it, it will show. Just give yourself time to blossom and someday soon, the right guy will love everything about you!
2006-08-04 23:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First do you have a Brother or good friend that is male? If you do, start by talking to them about things that you would want to talk to a potential boyfriend. Then start by just saying hello to a guy that is possibly a stranger, in line at the video store, grocery store etc. Let your confidence build up so that you are able to talk to the guys you really like. It just takes time to build up the confidence that the worst that can happen is he doesn't want to talk to you.
2006-08-04 23:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by teagle2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend you are someone else.
Watch a certain girl - one that all the boys like(and respect!) See how she acts when she is talking with a boy, or reacts when a boy speaks to her or how she does when she is walking down the hall; just everything about her,(notice that she smiles a lot!)
Then just pretend you are HER when a boy speaks to you. Try it you will eventually forget all about the role playing and pretty soon you will be relaxed in your life.
2006-08-04 23:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same. I think you just need to work up enough confidence and just do it. Don't be worried about what everyone will think because if you don't get out of your comfort-zone and ask a guy out it'll never happen.
I hope my advice helps. Good luck
2006-08-04 23:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been said honey that if somebody wants something bad enough, they will do what it takes to get it. If you think your shyness is what is is keeping you from getting a guy, and you want a guy bad enough, then you have to start trying to overcome it. It all depends on how bad you want him baby!
2006-08-04 23:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to develop some sense of pride in yourself, and realize that any guy will be lucky to be with you. You are the one who decides who to date and when. Self esteem goes a long way.
2006-08-04 23:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by ll_Zodiaco.Piton_ll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself- if a guy really wants to get to know you, he will penetrate that shy wall you hide behind. You'll be confident that he really likes you, and that will naturally make you feel more comfortable around him. Just be patient, and he'll find YOU! :)
2006-08-04 23:05:26 · answer #11 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋