2006-08-04 15:57:08 · 13 answers · asked by deanna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Consider the following:
A bridal shower should be an intimate affair where the bride gets to chat with each guest. That is impossible to do properly if the guest list is over 20 people.
The shower hostess (or hostesses) is not required to invite every female to the shower who has been invited to the wedding. Since showers are traditionally thrown by the maid of honor and/or the bridesmaids (usually friends and relatives of the bride) it is natural that the bride's friends and family usually make up the majority of the shower guests. Apart from traditionally inviting the groom's mother and sisters, the hostess is not at all obligated to invite anyone from the groom's side. (I would note here that any bridesmaid from the groom's side should also be invited, whether she is hosting or not.)
The hostess (or hostesses) throwing a shower gets to decide how many to invite - it is her party and she decides on the location and her funding limits. The hostess is supposed to come up with a set number of guests that she can accommodate, plus a suggested guest list. Your responsibility is only to look over the list and suggest additions or deletions - within the set number of guests given to you.
There is no need for you to mediate between groups - you are a guest - of course the Guest of Honor.
If the groom's family have a different tradition, then it is up to the groom's family to host an additional shower.
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2006-08-04 16:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is bad manners for family members or future family members to throw a shower for the bride.
A *friend* should volunteer to throw one, but if no one volunteers, the bride does not need a shower. They are optional.
2006-08-04 16:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is abnormal.
The whole purpose of the wedding shower is to arrange the bride to have a dowry, that is, assuming that she doesn't have one. The in-laws are not supposed to arrange that.
2006-08-04 16:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually done by one of the parents or a close friend of the bride. It might not be common practice, but it's very considerate of them.
2006-08-04 16:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it is but most of the times the bride's friends throw it
2006-08-04 16:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh?
a bride is a bride and has no inlaws until she's married.
A shower is usually prior to any wedding and is given by her friends or her mother.
2006-08-04 16:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents of the bride usually do it, but i think it's really nice of the in-laws to do it. Maybe it's there way of saying 'welcome to the family'
2006-08-04 16:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, as long as it fall within the bride taste and not their own.Long as the bride is happy!
2006-08-04 16:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by sexysummer34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah my mother in law threw one for me. I had 2 infact. I think it's sweet she's trying to be a friend.
2006-08-04 16:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure don't look a gift horse in the mouth!
2006-08-04 16:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by CeCi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋