heres the story: well hes your best friend then u fell in love wit him..and same to him..well sorta.. ( he likes u but he likes another girl too) so one day u asked him who would he choose then he picked the other girl...(but he still have sum feelings for you) so sum days later, u sorta got over it..but ure so mad at him cuz he said he likes the other girl (even that girl kept hurtin him) but STILL, he does sumthin that makes u think he still likes you..
BUT later on, you and him became best friends again...
THEN the day came when he finally stop goin for that other girl and wants u now again after hurtin u so much...SO u told him that youre scared to be hurt again by him...but u still love him though but jus afraid that he will break your aheart again one more time..
WHEN you said that to him, he jus hugged you and didnt said anything...
SO WHAT DO U THINK U SHOULD DO?? WOULD YOU GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE OR NOT??
PLEASE ANSWER THIS I NEED SOME ADVICE!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!
2006-08-04 15:51:14 · 26 answers · asked by peeace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is always hard to tell someone how to react in situations like these because everyone make mistakes and only you and the people that know him know exactly what kind of person he is.But with that said, I would not ever date someone that I was second best to.However, you said that you guys were best friends and most of the time it is best to just leave it at that., because if something bad were to happen between you, you will lose your friendship and all.On the other hand, sometimes best friends make the best couples and live happily EVERAFTER.If I were you, I would just take it slow and see what eventually evolves between you two.If it is meant to be, it will happen in its on sweet time and if not, it won't.Just don't jump into anything if he is on the rebound no matter what because in the end YOU will be the one that is hurt.
2006-08-04 16:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by jmt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly honey I think the only reason he picked the other girl over you in the first place was because he knew you would still be there after all was said and done with that other girl. I was in this same position about two years ago he kept doin the same thing and each time he would promise that he would never hurt me again and that he had changed but I know in my heart that will never be true. The hug, I think, in his mind was a big enough gesture to make you feel secure and trust the fact that he 'really does love you' NOW. If you choose to believe it then I believe he's just going to end up hurting you again. But maybe that's just my experience talking. I say give him one more chance. If he does it again then you'll know for sure that he hasn't changed his mind and that he may indeed be in love with you but he knows you will always be there so he figures he can have his fun and then have a safeway to run back to.
2006-08-12 15:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by ooh_rah07 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay,u have 2 choices either u can forgive him be cuz u're still in love w/him and u believe that u 2 can work this out,but u need 2 talk and find out completely if it's u all the way. and that u know he made a mistake and chose the wrong person, because he thought she was right for him,and all along she was only dragging him down.but in the end he found out how she really was and he relizes that what he had with u was a wonderful thing and wants u back.love is sometimes funny like that.Or u could tell him 2 get lost because he didn't relize what great person u were to him,and how u loved him for all his goods and his flaws.how he totally ignored the fact that r the right person 4 him and that he needs u in his life.
2006-08-12 15:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-08-28 12:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just walk away... Most men know if they want to be with you if they love you and need you...If he chose another woman over you then he doesnt feel the same thing for you...He is either trying to keep you at a safe distance so that if he doesnt find what he is looking for you will be there and he knows it...You deserve better then that....Move on with your life go out and have fun...You might find that you have out grown him and it was just a passing phase.....Good luck....
2006-08-12 05:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by mari p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he kept you on the back burner as a backup. I'd make him break his balls for your love and affection. If he can handle that, he's earned that second chance. If not, find someone who chooses wisely the first time around. Don't settle for being second banana!
2006-08-04 16:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give him a chance because he didnt know what the other girl was like. Every guy has to look before they realize what they have right in front of there eyes.
2006-08-11 14:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by mldwild 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not just let time take its course and see what he does.
is he over the other girl and just wanting a throw away? remember that usually when somebody gets hurt, the next one catches it for what the first one did.
just spend time together and see what happens.
did he ask you out as a girlfriend or as just a friend who happens to be a girl?
do a lot of talking and see where it goes
2006-08-11 13:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you got over him sorta then you never really loved him in the first place....sounds like your pride was hurt because he picked the other girl ...No way would he get another chance with me....he blew it....If he did it once it will happen again and again and again till you put a stop to if....Be smart girl do it now
2006-08-04 16:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by proud to be an American 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats why you never fall in love with your best friend, he is your best friend because you both have alot of things in common, and can finish each others sentences but usually that never ends up working out. and if you give him another chance it will happen again.
2006-08-12 14:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by RICK D'S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋