how do u handle this situation?

Question

ok i found out that i have to go to the docotor again cuz of wat the docotor found something wrong with me but wants to see me again to see wat is wat about my body but how do u explain this to ur b/f that knows about u going to the docotor before just for a check up and nothing more and he thinks everything is fine with u and the docotor tells u something other how do u explain it to him even those ur scared of wat the docotor will found out about u after u had sex with three different people in the past and he knows but the doctor knows something u dont know how would u explain this to him cuz u know it is gfoing to hurt him in somwway and u more how do u do it i need advice cuz im scared to tell him wat is going on

but me and him havent been having sex i told i want to wait to i get married and im a hooker but just scared of wat the docotor is going to say to me he found ay he doesnt found any problems with me and im just scared of wat is going to say and i love my b/f and he wants to kno everything that is going on in my life so i dont know wat to tell him

Answer 1

Go to the doc, see what he has to say, then tell BF if it something he needs to know...

Answer 2

I'm sorry.
If you guys are serious-Tell him the truth. Tell him that the Dr. wants to see you again and you are scared.
If you aren't serious-make a stupid excuse as to why he can't play "down there".
I hope that your appointment goes OK. If the doc thought that someone in your condition shouldn't have sex, he probably would've told you not to have sex. I don't think that you should get stressed out, over it.

Answer 3

just go back to the doctor, he doesn't need to know everything. and I'm not sure what your getting at, buy if you think you have an std and the results are positive, you have to tell him, yea you may lose him but you should have thought about that. if he loves you and the others are in the past you have nothing to worry about, plus if that is what you are worried about, how do you know that you didn't get it from him?

Answer 4

I think you should tell your boyfriend what happened and why the doctor wants to see you again. He may react badly, but yet again he might want to support you 100%. He going to find out eventually so he's better off hearing it from you, than someone else.
Good luck

Answer 5

well what exactly did the doctor say? and what did he find to start with? if it was something as simple as an irregular pap smear then don't worry to much, if it is an std, then you need to tell him asap...and as for how to tell your boy friend, well you just have to come right out and tell him..if he cares for you, he will not only be supportive, but understand...there is no better way to be than open and honest.

Answer 6

just tell him the truth say baby i went to the doctor and thety find something and they want to see me again and i want you to come with me for support and im sorry for not telling you the reason i was going to the doctor in the first place and i think you should go get check out as well

Answer 7

well i would cut the sex out of the relationship or better yet! you need some space for a while, if he may experience the same medical problem that you are then tell him because he will need treatment too!

Answer 8

In this situation I am going to have to advise you to be truthful with your man. Even if it costs you your relationship if you have endangered his health, he has a right to know. My young friend, I want you to know that this has happened to me in the past (when I was married). I went for a regular pap smear, and I had been having slightly more cramping with my regular period, and experiencing some discomfort, but nothing that really gave me an indication that I may have an infection. My family doctor had to inform me that my husband had brought me a venereal disease! I was so stunned, and so hurt! My husband did not know that he was carrying this disease, and you can only imagine how I felt when my family doctor who also treated my brothers and parents sat me down in his office and told me that he would need a list of ALL of MY sexual partners because he would have to report this disease to the Health Department. I was floored, I went to pieces, as my older doctor droned on about how many young women choose to be promiscuous yada yada yada...I had only had sex with my husband. I mean I had been married to him for 3 years, and I was 100% faithful to HIM. Tho' I am sure my doctor thought I was a whore.

If I were you, I would find out what the doctor has to say, and then have a sit down with your partner(s) and explain that they need to go to the health department, and have themselves tested and treated. It's the right thing to do, be responsible with this matter. YOU had to have caught it from someone! So the blame may rest with one of your previous or even your current partner, if he may be sneaking around on you! This has to be done, you cannot share unprotected sex in this day and age, and expect that you will always dodge all of the bullets that are flying around out there. There are all kinds of possibilities, and I personally can sympathize with you. Find out what your doctor says, then do the right thing.

It may not be a bad idea in the future to NEVER have unprotected sex, either oral or any other way. There are now condoms made for women, so that they can be pleasured orally without infections being transmitted, and you CAN catch VD in your mouth, and throat, and it can be caught (by you) that way too. The exchange of bodily fluids is all it takes to share a disease too. I will tell you that with some antibiotics my infection was cleared up and after that my husband NEVER saw any action without a condom. That's right, I was married to this man, and I knew I could not trust him with my life. I would have left him then, and saved myself a lot of other kinds of pain, but my family said I should stay married to this man who had given me a disease, and I did and suffered in other ways later. :-(

I hope that your problem is not a serious one, I can only say that I have found comfort in prayer, so I will remember you and your "partners" in my prayers. Please, even if your doctor gives you treatment at his office, come clean with your partners (yourself), tell them that they may be ill, and should go to be checked out. Please consider having all of your partners use condoms in the future, I think this is good advice that may save your life.

I hope that this is not a serious disease or other condition that may rob you of your life, please consider yourself fortunate if it's something that can be cured with antibiotics, take care and guard your health and your heart. You do not have to agree to risk your life to be someone's girlfriend, and you never know what someone may be doing when you are not with them either. So unless you and your partner are having sex to reproduce (in which case you want to KNOW that both of you are totally healthy, so your unborn child is not affected by what a Venereal Disease can do to a developing fetus!) use condoms, if you will go to the health department, they may even give them to you for free!

God bless you, you have my sympathy although I think you have made some bad decisions (possibly) in your past, you can do things differently in the future! This is not the end of the world, just something to take seriously and be mature about. Please do not think that I am judging you, I really know some of your feelings now, and I am so very sorry to hear that your doctor has found a reason to give you a call back. I know that these type of calls can be so frightening, and scary. Now it has to be dealt with, so you can all be healthy again (I hope).

Answer 9

say one of the test came back as messed up or unreadable and you need to do it again.
If you got something your b/f can catch tell him the truth. but if you do not know what is what wait until you know for sure

Answer 10

I'm not even going to give that garbled mess the pleasure of a response... oh wait, I guess this IS a response.... dang...