so this girl ask me out and i dont like saying no so i said yes and im not really attracted to her so whts the best way to break up with someone with out hurting their feeling? i was thinking of getting her mad and making her break up with me so there no hard feeling!what are other ways?
2006-08-04 15:44:08 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Getting her mad is a BAD way to break up with her!!! That'll make it worse.
I think your best bet is, saying something like, 'I do like you as a person, I'm just not ready for a relationship yet... I want to be single for a while.' Something like that. The best thing is, though, break it off. Don't keep it dragging on, treating her badly - it'll really mess her around if you do that.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 15:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some tips
1. Do not avoid the subject. It's best to get it over with as soon as possible. The longer you wait the harder it will get.
2. Remain calm. You don't want to stir up mixed emotions or send mixed signals. It could only make it worse.
3. Talk about it. It's always best to state your opinion on why you want to break up. This is so your 'someone' (soon to be ex.) will not question it and think there may still be something between you. Try not to blame each other, it only makes things worse and may cause aggressiveness.
4.It's always best to do it in person, unless of course this person is abusive by any means. Then it's best to either call or write a letter, even better, have a friend tell the person. It's a horrible way to break up, but if it's a last resort, do it.
5.After the break up, do not go back -- no matter what. You broke up for a reason, remember it. You might think this person has changed, but they truly haven't. People do not change over short periods –- no matter how convincing that person might be.
Of course, there are always exceptions to rules. One may be able to go back to someone they were with, if the reason is not a big one. For example, distance. If two broke up because of distance, it would be easy for them to get back together later on without any serious problems – same thing holds true for misunderstandings.
2006-08-04 15:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly I just gotta say that I'm like you and I really don't like to say no. So one day I'll probably be in your situation. So here's what I'd do. First you gotta find out if she really likes you and why she likes you. This is where it could get hard. If she sincerely likes you for who you are then I'd say you're kind of stuck, but I'm sure other people could give some advice about that. If she likes you for another reason, for example, if she likes you only because you're rich or something, then I say you should just tell her that you don't really feel like being in a relationship. And if that doesn't work, you could say that you feel like she's rushing into the relationship and you need time to think about it. That will give you time to think about what to say without hurting her feelings.
I don't really know how much help I've been...but I tryed!
Good Luck!
2006-08-04 15:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Crisco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how crazy she is. If she is a nice girl, then step 1 you go, I'm not ready to settle down, don't want to break your heart--I'm an honest guy and I just can't be there for you. Then you go to step 2 avoid her like the plague, so you don't encourage her to try to change your mind.
If she's crazy, just go straight to step 2 and avoid her like the plague. Don't take her calls and don't be there for her no matter what she says, no matter who in the family dies, no matter how many late night voicemails you get. Now, this can take a while, but don't give up hope. Her girfriends all the while encourage her that she is being disrespected and should give up on you. They may even find you and insult you personally, so just act like you are busy and this does not upset you. They will report back to her. Goal is then--she will be seen with someone else before you are seen with someone else.
2006-08-04 16:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend tell her that you were cheating on her or something like you were kissing in the hall at school and then she will get totaly mad at you yes she will be a little hurt but thats a way ok listen any way you try to make her mad and if she breaks up with you all woman get upset about breaking up with there bf but they get over it sooner or later they have friends to tell them there feelings but guys get more upset if they actually like the girl that is cuz they dont talk about there feelings to there friends they have them bottled up and my point is she will get over it k
2006-08-04 15:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Britt-Bratt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do anything in life is by being direct and honest. You can do that without having to hurt someones feelings. Be kind and gentle in the process. Learning to say NO will stop you and others from a lot of heartache.
2006-08-04 15:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by nutnut1957 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey- First of all you are not in a serious relationship here, so technically its not breaking up! Be honest with the person, "I am not interested in going out with you, but hey "lets be friends". Ok, its a little cliche' but how else you gonna do it? Also, like making he mad won't hurt? Just B Honest!
2006-08-04 15:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a best way to break up with someone. Good luck but a bit of advise: either way it goes someone is going to be mad.
2006-08-04 15:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dana J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit dowe with the chick, get your macho attuide up and say look, iam not interested in you other than being a friend take her off too a quiet room, sit apart from her tell her too shut up and listenn at forst tell her its serious look her in the eye and say look iam not intetested in you if you want to be friends i will give you time and space dont lose temperr, say iam sorie i hope its no hard fellings ec, and just walk away, etc, if she comes around fine but let her go do what i told you etc!!
2006-08-04 15:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her, no mind games. There is no way to break up without hurting feeling. Tell her the truth and hopefully she can be as mature as you are trying to be by being honest with her.Good luck!!
2006-08-04 15:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋