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his parents know.
he told me the guys will do something to him if he stops.
he wants to stop!
he even asked me for help.
i dont even know what to tell him.
i'm scared, that's all i am!
2006-08-04 15:01:51 · 24 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I TALKED TO HIm.and told him i would help him.and he freaked out. i told him "choose me or drugs"
he told me death!
add me if you want to talk 2 me.i need help. i love him . brreezy_k14@hotmail.com or breezy_k14@yahoo.com (one R)
2006-08-04 15:45:50 · update #1
OMG THANK YOU ALL.
BUT HE just made it up 2 me that he will stop.
we talked in a conversation with someone he's really close with.
so everything is okay now.
thank you all.
2006-08-04 16:45:36 · update #2
nooo.
he just smokes weed with them.
and yesterday his parents found out he was smoking [just smoke]
he told me his eyes were red. troat hurts. and he was spitting blood. he wants help . he begged the guys to let him go out of the gang thing. and the guy called him 45 min later telling him it's okay he can go.
he told me he'll stop because he loves me and he doesn't want to lose me he'll do anything i say from now on. and if i don't like something he'll stop emmediatly im not from States.. I'm all the way from South America [Suriname]
we both talked about the stopping and I'm happy he's not ADDICTED yet.
2006-08-05 04:43:46 · update #3
Direct him to the nearest drug rehab and tell him to tell his parents to take him. If he wants to quit bad enough he will not have a problem going.
2006-08-04 15:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is extremely addicted then you need to get him some help, especially if you think his life is in danger. I had a friend that always cut herself and couldnt stop and she kept asking me for help so i told me parents and they came with me to a conselour and the couselor then called her house and told her parents and then her parents got her a conselor all for herself and she was pisseed at me at firstbut now shes doing a lot better
and if hes being peer-pressured..thats just stupid, **** "the guys" let him know that hes endangering himself
or you could even try the whole me or the drugs thing if you think that will work, but if not...talk to his parents..theyre the ones that could PAY FOR HELP, like a rehabilitaion center or something
try preoccupying him, and keeping him away from who ever is pressuring him
or talk to whoever the guys are and punch them..im kidding..but trust me itll work out, if you feel you cant convince him to stop you should get him some proffesional help, but definitely do NOT give up on him..thats th most important..you are his support beam
good luck
2006-08-04 22:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my boyfriend and i first got together he was into alot of drugs, drugs iv never done..and never plan on doing.. all his friewdns did them and they all thought it was kool. i put up wth it for a short period of time,approx. 2 months than gave him the choice,me or all the drugs.. he than dumped a number of drugs down the drain right there infront of me. I was so prode of him. The best thing i could tell you to do is talk to him, tell him your going to support him no matter what, tell him not to worry about what his little friends say, do it for him self./ he will be happier (you will see the difference)... If he wants to quit he can do it! he he doesnt want to he will keep procasinating(putting it off)... if you love him, tell him that..tell him how much he means to you...
By the way my boyfriend at the time just turned 16... so did I... its a hard choice... tel him you will back him up no matter what, let him know you will be there if he wants to go to a rehabilitation program(if hes having that mch trouuble getting off the drugs that would be his best bet)... watch some documentries on how the things are made, make him watch them with you... that alone should make him quite(AN EXCELLENT SHOW TO WATCH IS CALLED INTERVENTION, ITS REALLY DEEP)... tell him his friends arent really friends if they wont support him... Tell him I said good luck...and good luck to you to.., hope all comes thru... and remember... with hope and faith anything can happen...where theres a will theres a way. let me know what happens in the future...daydreamin_ashley@yahoo.com
once again good luck, if you need any other advice email me, im here to help.
2006-08-04 22:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have worked with in this field for a number of years, as a youth worker, social worker, probation officer, out reach worker, housing support, residential social work; the short answer is you cant.. we cannot change anyone, they have to want to change. He has to see it as a problem before he will consider addressing it. Two things, 1) if you don't like the drug use, end it..you are very young to be taking on someones problems for your self 2) talk to his parents they are the ones with responsibility for his welfare.. sorry this is a tough answer, but sadly if at 15 he is using drugs and you are already feeling responsible for his well being, you both have a long and tough life ahead..If he wants help there are many routes out there for him, esp as a youth. he can go to a GP, youth drugs drop in, on line, you and his parents can get support too. sadly this is a journey he has to make alone, you can support him, but he has to do the work.. there are no quick and short answers, sorry? i don't know where you are but any of these links may help.
in responce to your comment: we both talked about the stopping and I'm happy he's not ADDICTED yet.... he is addicted, orelse he would not have asked for help.. sorry i seem harsh, but addicts lie, mainly to themselves.. he still needs to get proper support, at 15 you do need to step back.. very best of luck
2006-08-07 04:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is SERIOUS he if not hippie doing a little dope or acid or raver into E...
Drug addicts lie so you can't believe him you need proof and more important the guys!!!!
This is most likely going to involve the end of your relationship however it turns out, even if you love him, its going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
Note this is comming from someone who is pro legalisation in a controlled way with many drugs not the all drugs are evil group so not the seriousness of my line.
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his parents know.
he told me the guys will do something to him if he stops.
he wants to stop!
he even asked me for help.
5 hours ago
I TALKED TO HIm.and told him i would help him.and he freaked out. i told him "choose me or drugs"
he told me death!
add me if you want to talk 2 me.i need help. i love him . brreezy_k14@hotmail.com or breezy_k14@yahoo.com (one R)
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This is a job therefore for adults you are not qualified to deal with this... What really worries me is the line.
The guys will do something to him if he stops...
We now need ALL details... are you in america or UK does this involve gangs and guns? and exactly what drugs???
He is 15... good that means his parents have control and can have him forced into rehab violently...
If you want to help him you CAN'T BE NICE. YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO SEE HIM HURT TO HELP HIM AND IN TROUBLE YOURSELF.
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THIS AND ASK FOR HELP.
Helping him may well mean you loose him.
I fear both of you are in danger so the police will need to get involved unless you or his parents have very tough grown up mates like a biker gang.
His mates are going to need to be arrested if they can be taken away if they are threatening him. I am very worried if he is in a gang as that could involve guns.
This may involve you and his family leaving the city and cutting off all friend ans and links permiantly. Certainly thats what's best for him. His mates ain't his mates.
www.childline.org.uk
08001111
0800 776 600
Talk to frank
www.nya.org.uk
02087729900
These are in the uk
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This means as said his parents will have if its not the odd bit of dope or e (which given the tone of your post I doubt sounds more serious) his can parents can get those from a rehab centre to send big guys around to grab him in home, and drag him to a rehab centre against his will. or with the help of cops.
At this point he will hate you and beg you for help... you can't give it if you want to help him...
This also helps him against his guys... he didn't have the choice.
He can never see the guys again and as said this may involve his family moving witness protection wise which may mean the end of you two if there is a dangerous gang involved.
You have to say ALL the details here including whereabout you live ie city will do.
Exactly what drugs are involved and the danger of the guys...
As said this is a police matter..
I would report this here but the stupid mods will probably erase your post withtout looking at it.
Contact those I just mentioned and your teachers in school. And ask them that you and possibly he may need protection.
As said you have to say ALL the details...
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This is unlikly to end without violence involved in some way. You are a kid... this is why you are still with parents... I only hope your parents are not idiots like many parents so contact the groups I said first.
And if you have family friends along the lines of the biker or ex soldiers I mentioned ask them for help even if just for protection
2006-08-05 04:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him tell the Pushermen that HE IS OUT!!! If its a gang of cohorts then have him go to the police and tell all he knows.This one is selling me this and that one is pushing that and this one burglarized this place and that house to pay for drugs. Wait,take that back about going to the cops,just have him write all this down and put it in an envelope. Tell these maggots he is quitting and if anything happens to him his cousin has orders to mail this info to the cops along with times ,dates and NAMES and what went down. Guarrantee they will back off big time!!! Knew someone who did this and his bloodsucking maggot associates backed off
2006-08-04 22:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chuck this total miserly excuse for a human being. He is so full of teen bull s hit that hes not only kiddin himself on, hes managing to kid u on too.
Get the hell out of that situation - if my daughter was mixed up with a kid like that i would do all that i could to separate them so her young life was not sucked down the tubes caring for and getting over involved in someone elses problems.
Its his and his parents problem, not yours. Get a life before u get hurt.
2006-08-04 22:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Allasse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably owes those guys money. He needs to talk to a responsible adult....parent, priest...teacher. And he has to accept that he needs help....and get into a good rehab program. Those involved in drugs often lie....so be careful....and praying helps too.
2006-08-04 22:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by rita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The guys" won't do anything if he stops, no matter what they say. 15-year-old guys are idiots.
Bring him to a rehab center or counselor. There must be some walk-in resources in your community.
If nothing happens, then yeah, I guess tell his parents, but he should really be the one to tell them. Give him that chance.
2006-08-04 22:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him check into a rehab center for a few months. Talk to his parents about the situation.
2006-08-04 22:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by babyrooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋