I honestly don't feel pretty, also that my parents love my sister more because she is smarter, and skinnier, and prettier, and all around better. I am the older one, yet I constantly feel inferior.
This is me:
http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g142/BigFatPaulie12/smilessmiles.jpg
And this is her:
http://www.myspace.com/andasoulonfire
Does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-08-04 14:57:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow. Thanks for being so supportive. :]
2006-08-04 15:50:16 · update #1
......You are not ugly from the the looks of the picture you have a great smile and nice eyes. If you feel like you do then lose some whieght . I have a beatiful sister 2 but i don't feel i'm ugly but we have different good lookin' features.Your sister is the baby compared to you being the oldest she is bound to get attension. So don't feel bad just do what makes you happy.
2006-08-04 15:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Guess who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger won't stay pretty, that is the thing, if everything is handed to her on a platter, she will begin to expect it and will not develop a personality to carry her through when her looks are gone. What is she going to do when the wrinkles start, and things begin to sag? If she is still riding the laurels of being so smart and pretty and skinny and SHALLOW, there will be nothing to base her beauty in, or on. Sort of like the house that is built on the shifiting sand and slides in the ocean, vs. the one on the rock that holds through the storms, who will be more beautiful in 10 years?
You will my dear, there is an uncomparable / incomparable beauty in the natural suffering in life, only the ones who overcome. A secret knowing in the eyes, and a mystery... Get my meaning?
As for your parents loving her more, she is more likely in their faces more than you are. You feel inferior, thus you withdraw a bit. Your sister sees the weakness and steps in to take the extra attention that your parents are not spending on you. Turning the whole thing into a vicious circle, causing you to retire from sight more often than you were before. Ever hear the old saying the squeaky wheel gets the grease? in this case your sister is the squeaky wheel, and your parents affection is the grease.
I was the pretty sister, the clever sister, the sucessful sister, the SHALLOW sister. I am learning life lessons, and pass on to you what did truly happen. My sister is now beautiful and rich. She is happy.
2006-08-04 22:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look prettier than she is, do you feel like because she is blonder she is prettier? That is definitely not true! you need to focus on your positive aspects! Be yourself and be the best you can be to get ahead in life! When you are older and wiser you will see that you are great the way you are!! I'm sure your parents don't love her more maybe you are a stronger more independent girl than she is and she needs more attention even though you may not feel it they do love you too!! Sometimes parent see different things in their children and maybe you tended to need less attention than she did and they never realized you feel neglected! Try to talk to which ever parent you feel closer to and calmly explain how you feel or if it is easier write them a letter. just try not to come across as aggressive and they would understand you need alittle more of their attention. I will get better you'll see! Best wishes and stay positive!!
2006-08-04 22:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by snhtg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You are a lovely yound lady! I know just what you mean - except I was the younger sister, so I already felt stupid because I was younger. She was popular, outgoing, a model, etc. the works. I was shy and awkward. Every year my parents put an angel on top of the Christmas tree because it was bought the year she was born. I felt bad all the time! Just remember that no one can make you feel better about yourself besides you! Thinks of all your positive qualities - I'm sure you have lots! Good luck!
2006-08-04 22:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by lindyk8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your pictures. Your beautiful. You shouldn't worry about your parents. I am more of the "Ugly Cousin". My family always said right in front of me how the room lit up when my beautiful cousins came into the room and I was constantly told I should lose weight, do something with my hair. Basically they tried to make me feel inferior. But, I always stayed true to who I am.
My cousins are all thin and beautiful. And do you know what happened. Half of them are divorced, have had their husbands cheat on them and are darn right unhappy with their lives.
I on the other hand, married what is considered the cutest "in law" of all of them and he loves me with all his heart, hasn't cheated, treats me like a princess and we are still lovey dovey after 15 years.
Good things come to good people. Be yourself. Do things that make you happy and don't worry about what others say.
2006-08-04 22:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by lajefa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey to tell you the truth your sister is probally jelous of you, you have more of a figure, more life experence and she probabally thinks that your parents love you more, as the younger, smaller sister in a family, i can tell you i went through a stage of feeling that way, but everyones life looks better from the outside and the truth is you are pretty and you have your own talents and abilities that make you who you are, and that make you unique, embrace the things that you think are flaws because as you get older amoung the adults in this world they are the things that are most often admired.
2006-08-05 01:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being too hard on yourself! Your parents love you both the same, I'm sure! I think that sometimes when you feel badly about yourself, you can mistakenly perceive that others feel the same way that you are feeling about yourself. Don't compare yourself to your little sister but be proud of who you are, as you are unique and have your own special gifts. And if you are happy and with yourself, you project this to others and they will find you pleasant to be around!
2006-08-04 22:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Miss U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are a very pretty girl. my puter wonbt let the pic of your sister show up. but im sure she too is pretty... i dont see why u think your ugly... you have alot to offer, quit lookin down on yourself if you keep doing such things you will never go anywhere. hold your head up high and tell yourself your pretty,smart,you seem to be a great person, i think its natural to have a feeling like that. I am the yougest of 2 kids and when around my older brother i feel as though my mom cares more about him, i feel invisable but i just think of myself. i have people telling me im pretty and so on and so forth. i also have 2 yonger siblings... ever think maybe its just jelousy? its all natural. Dont worry im sure your parents do love you just as much... every parent loves there kids! good luck, and remember you are beautiful and have alot to offer... dont wry about how your younger sister looks. who knows maybe she looks up to you?
2006-08-04 22:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥PrEcIoUs♥DaYdReAmEr♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You are Gorgeous!! Now for the sister thing.. You can't compete with that. If your parents consciously or subconsciously favor her, that may be very harmful to you.. Maybe you can tell them how you feel. You are very important always remember that. No matter what anyone else does!
2006-08-04 22:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by enquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I have felt the same that my parents treat my sister better than I do. Talk to them about it. I’m 23 and I did and felt a lot better.
2006-08-04 22:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by melissa w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋