2006-08-04 14:45:09 · 62 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, you should bring a gift. The bridal shower gift should be something intimate that will make her feel sexy for her future husband or something to pamper her. The wedding gift should be something that she has on her wedding gift list. If she doesn't have one , try a gift certificate to a place you know she is fond of.
2006-08-04 14:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by iman8898 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, here's my two cents:
You don't HAVE to do anything.
BUT proper etiquette says that *even though* you brought a shower gift, it is customary and expected that you also buy a wedding present/cash if you are attending the wedding and reception.
Around here it is customary for people to spend about $60-150 on the wedding gift *for each person that is attending the reception*.
So, a couple attending a wedding and reception is looking at giving the newlyweds around $120-300 (to spend on a gift or to give to the couple)... If it is a family with kids, they should bump up the $120 to account for the cost and inconvenience of kids at the wedding.
HOWEVER, if you are a starving student like me, hopefully your friends/family will know your situation and will just be happy that you came to the wedding (even if you can only afford to give $40 rather than $60, etc etc).
Cheers :)
PS There are also exceptions- i.e. the wedding is held at a resort far away that everyone has spend $$$ to travel to and stay at....
2006-08-05 18:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is customary to also bring a gift to wedding if you also brought a gift to the bridal shower. Those are 2 separate events.
If you received an invitation to the wedding and you replied that you planned to attend, proper etiquette says yes, bring a gift. It doesn't have to be a "big" gift. You could give a small amount of money, a gift card or something small of the bride and groom's registry.
2006-08-04 14:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last time I read up on this, a gift is proper (and expected) when a guest accepts an invitation to a wedding reception. The shower is a separate event held for the express purpose of amassing even more bridal gifts. Sorry, I think you're stuck for two gifts. In my neck of the woods it's popular (and very easy) to just give money in a card at the reception.
2006-08-04 14:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kraftee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is proper etiquette to bring a gift if you attend the ceremony.
I have recently been invited to a bridal shower, which I am unable to attend. Though a gift is not required, I will probably send a nice gift card. If invited to the wedding, I will bring a gift from the registry.
2006-08-05 21:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by kaschweigert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally the gifts that people bring to the bridal shower are just for the bride, the gifts brought to the wedding are gifts for the couple
2006-08-04 14:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because what you gave during the bridal shower is for the bride and the gift at the wedding is for the both of them. Girls are crafty and loves gifts.
2006-08-04 16:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... two different occassions. Bridal shower doesn't have to be very expensive.... just something for the house. The wedding gift is more important. Good Luck.
2006-08-04 14:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The wedding gift has to be something more expensive and serious, the gift for the bridal shower can be something playful or naughty.
2006-08-04 14:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Babadoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The bridal shower is a seperate event from the wedding. Spend wisely so that you can take a present to both.
2006-08-04 14:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Elena P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋