I know of someone very dear to me that is dying. She wishes to die at home. How would you feel about that?

Answer 1

It's understandable. You can rent hospital beds and hire a visiting nurse if you need to.

I took care of someone I loved during her last few months ... it's not easy, but your first concern should be to make it as comfortable as possible for the person who is dying.

I should also suggest, don't try to do too much yourself. If you can't get other people to help her, get someone to help *you*.

Bless you both.

Answer 2

When I was 15 my mother passed away from ALS. When she was told that is what she had, we moved into my grandmothers home, where my mom was born and raised and where she spent the rest of her life. The whole family was able to be with her through the end. I was laying in bed with her when she passed away and I think that it was wonderful to have her where SHE was comfortable and at the same time, to be able to look around in the end and see, that just because her heart stopped, my world didn't. It wasn't cold and hard like a hopital would have been.That was 22 years ago, and when I get sad or down, I can always go back to my mom's room and feel like she is there with me. If I am ever in that postion, I would hope and pray that I could die at home, with my family and friends around me. Let me add, her hospice nurse was there with us, and by that time, she had become part of our family.

Answer 3

If you can handle it and it is their ardent wish to die at home, I would do everything you can to make it happen.. Be aware its not easy though - my Great Aunt was dying for three years of a slow blood cancer, and didnt want to go to hospital.. At first it was ok, but at the end she had blood in her stools and I had to wash it off of the floor and bedclothes time and time again.. its not pleasant..

Be aware that often people who are dying take out their anger on their caregiver too - they are angry that they are dying, angry that they are in pain and have noone else to take it out on - esp if they have alzheimers too or something like that..

It is tough, but if you love that person enough and can do it for them, its far more pleasant for them if they can stay at home (its very uncomfortable being in hospital).

If I were you I would state your boundaries though, and say that if your patient is in terrible pain that cannot be relieved at home for some reason, then the patient must be admitted to hospital in order to receive pain relief.

Be careful you dont get into the Euthanasia scenario - your patient may want you to help them to die. Make it clear that you will make them as comfortable as possible, with the help of Doctors (who can make life pretty pain free, although this may mean the patient is asleep most of the time), but you will NOT help them to die.

Answer 4

Personally, I think it very reasonable. She knows that she is dying and want to die where she is comfortable and loved. I'd do it if I were in her situation.

You can arrange for people to come in and take care of her needs on a scheduled basis. Visit the link below to read about hospice care.

Answer 5

I set with a 42 year old cancer patient last year, I loved her dearly. I treated her just like I wanted to be treated. We became the best of friends, she is still close to my heart and will always be. I also had to take care of my father in 1998 with bone cancer, he also wanted to die at home, but I also enjoyed the time with him, and I will never for get his tears when I granted his wish and moved in with him. Then, in 1999, my mother got lung cancer, she also wanted to die at home, I loved her very much and she was a little more stubborn than my dad, but we made it, then the shock of my life, in 2000, my youngest brother, 38, also came down with the fast growning lung cancer, He was my hardest, he was such a mommy's baby, and couldn't stand the pain, but I stayed with him at home and held his hand. We found out he had cancer in May of 2000 and he died in October 1, 2000. I loved him very much. I'm the only girl of the family and alot was left up to me. Then to beat it all, Johnny, my brother, had a little girl, age 8, and her mother didn't want her. So my husband and I have had her since 2000. I had cancer when I was 24 and I didn't get to have any children, but I have raised seven (7) children for other people that didn't want them. God has definitely blessed me with my kids. I love kids so much, I would love to be in social services in Crossville to help these kids. I'm 51 now and I need a job desperately. Thank you.

Answer 6

Well I think as a loved one, it is important to respect the wishes of the dying person. It isnt an easy process in many ways and I think its important to make them as comfortable as can be and in an environment that they feel would make the passing easiest on them. If you are in doubt about any medical issues, you can always contact your local Hospice center and they will help you in any way they can.

Answer 7

If that's what she wants then grant her that wish. It will make both of you feel better. When my Grandfather was dying he wanted to be at home. My Mom and two of her sisters had to go to court against the other 3 sisters to get him home but the judge sided for my Grandfather. He got his wish and he was happier for it and so was my Mom because she was able to help him with that.

Answer 8

I think that if that's how she wants to leave this Earth then that's exactly what she should do. Hospitals are no place to be in your final time. You should be at home in your bed where you are most comfortable. (Not to mention that it really helps the family members to have their own beds nearby and don't have to exhaust themselves travelling to and from the hospital at all hours of the day and night).

Places of familiarity are important to the person who is dying because no matter how prepared you think you are mentally, you need something there to comfort your fears and her own bed in her own room might just do that for her.

Answer 9

HOnor her wishes. My mom died at home 4 years ago of lung cnacer. SHe would not have wanted to die in a hospital. She hated hospitals. It was almost a godsend when she died when she did because she was almost at a point where they were suggesting moving her to the residential hospice place. She would not have wanted to go there and die.

Answer 10

Yes, she needs to check with some of the great Hospice programs around that helps a person pass at home if possible.