OH MY GOODNESS!!! My kids are driving me crazy!!!???

Question

They won't stop fighting. the 5 year old just doesnt STOP ever. He annoys my 8 year old so much that she retaliates and then they fight - they are doing it now - HELP!!!!!
Yeah - time-outs, I know. They don't work. HEEEELLLLPPPPP??

Answer 1

Yeah, I have that problem with my 4 kids. 12, 7, 4 and 3. Pray for school to start so you can put them on someone else for a while. I'm kidding-sorry teachers!! I know with mine, they are just spending to much time with each other and also, there is a clash in personalities. The first 2 are girls and share a room. They spend all their time with each other and one is laid back and the other is up-front and loud, so they don't mix well sometimes. The other 2 are boys and just do what boys do: play in the dirt, wreck cars, be loud and drive me and the other 2 crazy! Like I said, pray for school to start or a stiff drink (in their juice will do!)

Answer 2

You will have to get stronger with the discipline. If they won't behave together, tell them they can not be together and then separate them for a period of time and remind them of why they are not together. It will take a while for it to sink in. You have to be on it. No breaks. No second chances. No explanations from them-just the separation and the decree from you. Step it up if they are defiant. Take away other privileges and do not give in. Make it something YOU can live with so you do not cave. Try them together again and start over. They will comply if you stay strong.

Answer 3

This time out stuff is rubbish, for boys who are boys. It is the rule of the jungle, you have to establish your authority. I have raised three demons from hell and they are well behaviour, when they are under the thumb (until Satan whispers in their ears or until their preadolesant stupidity comes through). Smack his legs, one good one that leaves a mark on his leg, put him in his room, he comes out again smack him again. Females especially single mum have trouble being consistent. It is a war that goes on 24/7, you have to remain consistent, firm and strong.
You have tried positive conditioning, mild negative conditioning , now its time step up the stakes.
The children’s mother would come back and say the made me buy things, they were terrible. They were well behaviour, perfect behaviour with me. When they were toddlers, if they put a whammy on in the shopping centre I would walk away and leave them kicking their legs on the floor. I would hide around the corner and make sure that they were ok. Then they would come hurtling around to catch me up. If they cried for a toy in the supermarket and I decided I wasn’t going to buy it, I just threw the toy on top of the gondola. They would get another I was already in the next isle and threw the next toy they got up on top of the gondola again. However once you say no, you must not change your mind , because most women have trained their children that if they whinge and moan long enough, mummy will change her mind, so the children know what to do next time.

Additionally and defiantly not in replacement for smacking, when he is in a hysterical shity mood run a bath and put him in with pour toys, plastic containers and funnels from the kitchen and bottles are ideal.

Be strong and rule a hard line that is vigorously enforced

Answer 4

Try keeping them occupied with something they like at least the five year old. If you can. But I am not the best to give advice because my two are only 7 and 1

Answer 5

Now you regret ever becoming pregnant. What you should do,is simply seperate your kids, just like you,they might want some alone time here & there. Also don't allow them to have any dessert or snacks if they don't behave,and make them eat plenty of fruits & vegetables. Now maybe they won't be such a pain.

Answer 6

Just thank God you have your two kids and they are able to fight amongst themselves. Not long ago, a girl down the street suddenly died of a heart attack. 12 years old and no known medical problems. So, count your blessings and keep trying to teach them that fighting isn't the answer.

Answer 7

i always stop fighting with my brother when i realize how special he truly is.....mabye you could point out the great things about each of them.....then u def need to seperate them into different rooms for either a couple of hours to whole dayd without each other....it doesnt mean that they cant come out of their rooms...they just cant talk to each other.....after a while i think that they will realize they miss each other and if they dont well u wanted them to stop fighting anyway....also praying works wonders....just keep fighting and have faith....oh and make sure that you are really forcefull with puinishments....not harmful but dont let them feel as if they can overpower you and control you...cause then ur in for it

Answer 8

Reward the positive behavior, ignore the junk, separate the kids before the fighting stops, counseling may help, or a parenting class... hang in there!

Answer 9

Make the time outs work!!
if they fight when time out is over it's time for another they will get that they cant fight or they will be in time out
and It's 9:00 here just put them to bed!

Answer 10

sit their butts down at the kitchen table and make some demands. tell them your home is a "no fight zone". if they insist upon fighting, they must take it outside. EVERY TIME. they just aren't allowed to fight in your home. if they choose, they can yell it out in the yard or the street or whatever, just not in your home. this helps them focus the real issues at hand, and is it worthy of going out doors for. sometimes it is, and let them duke it out. don't get involved in their disputes, they need to resolve their differences on their own. best of luck here, honey. my thoughts are with ya!!