Why couldn't this cancer happen to someone down the street who really had nothing to live for? I know that sounds selfish, but that's really how I feel about the whole thing. I love my father to , and I'm not ready for him to leave, yet.
2006-08-04 13:50:06 · 27 answers · asked by Almost know it all... 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I will pray the Lord will heal Him, but lass, don't get bitter cos it will make you feel worse. I lost a child of 12, which happened 8 years ago now. I had to guard my heart, so that I would not get bitter, and by God's grace, I managed it, and still do. I will pray for you too!
2006-08-04 14:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Medical researchers estimate that each of us develops cancer around 1,000 times during a normal life span. In almost all cases, the body detects the rogue cells, and kills the cancer with us being none the wiser.
In rare instances, the cells that become the cancer mutate in such a way that the immune system fails to recognize that the cells are a danger, and simply ignores them. Carcinogens are chemicals that increase the occurrence of cell mutation and the likelihood that a person will develop a cancer that is dangerous, but each of us carries a risk, even if we are never exposed to risk factors.
Cancer survival rates have improved greatly in recent years. Please have hope, and know that whatever happens, part of him will always live within you.
2006-08-04 14:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jay S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crappy stuff can happen to anyone, and always for a reason... as hard as it might seem to believe. My father is going through brain cancer right now too and the doctors have almost run out of options. But my family prays and we believe this has happened for a reason to help other people. Keep praying hunny! Don't give up... trust me! Anything is possible with God! I know it! If you need to talk about what you're going through, pick this as a best answer and note how i can contact you. You're in my prayers! God Bless You!
2006-08-04 14:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by italianchic1606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your fathers illness. It isn't selfish or wrong to feel that way at all. I can't say that it's happened to my parents, but two years ago I lost my favorite grandmother to cancer and now my grandfather has the same exact cancer in the same spots, it's really hard for me because my husband is military and I haven't lived close to home in ten years, so when she passed it was bad and I was pregnant so I decided not to go to her funeral. It's weird and I think wrong when something so awful happens to someone so great and those who are awful seem to live forever.
2006-08-04 13:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Karla A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancer is not an automatic death sentence. SOme people do survive cancer. My mom died of lung cancer 4 years ago. I thought the same thing. But then I read somewhere, "why not?" I know you don't want your dad to leave just like I didn't want to say goodbye to my mom, but why this person and not that person, why that person and not this person? Cancer or any other disease doesn't play fair all the time and it does not judge...it can claim anyone, of any race, of any country, of any economic level, etc.
2006-08-04 13:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure thats what the guy down the street would be saying too. You're not selfish, you're human. Anyone would rather some other careless person would be affected this way than someone we love, specially one of our parents.The truth is, these things don't come with a warning..I wish you only but the strength that is needed to cope with these things. You need to be strong for yourself, for your dad, and for other family members. These things are never easy. I wish you and your family the best.
2006-08-04 13:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard but we all have to go sometime. No exceptions. Ask your dad whether he had a great life? If he says yes, then I think it wil be selfish of you to hold on. Anyway, how do you know he is going to die?
How do you know the person down the street has nothing to live for? Why are you wishing ill on someone else?
2006-08-04 13:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recognize that his diagnosis is difficult to take in. I feel the 'seeds' you say are on the whole 'cells' they're speakme about. You ought to discover what variety of melanoma it surely is, and what stage it's at. You have been informed he has only month's to reside, so i might ensure the staff provide him soreness relief if and when he desires it. (do not be afraid to demand this if necessary) If the cancer has certainly spread to his mind then it is dependent what subject of the mind. ( i will be able to speak from expertise as my possess dad had mind melanoma and alas died last yr) BTW the cancer did not kill him, he suffered a colossal heart assault, he had very high blood stress for years. It is an terrible quandary and you have my utmost sympathy, however which you can only do so a lot, that's to be there by your dad's part, and be there in your mum as so much as which you can. There are enterprises so as to help the MacMillan nurses, are excellent. Be ready with your dad prematurely, swelling on his mind will seemingly influence in extreme affliction in his head, and also you need to ensure of the ache remedy. My possess dad did go via it, in a technique it used to be a relief he went when he died, my mum would not take his suffering any longer. It is not going they are going to operate to your dad as his age will not be on his aspect with this, and the brain is so gentle to function on. I will pray for you all and i do hope you deal with this, you also owe it to your possess loved ones to be there for them as well, your dad would not want you over-careworn with stress, athough from our own experience it's terrible demanding seeing a dearly loved dad hurting in entrance of you, and having to cope with loved ones too. I'd ask the medical employees about your dad being given steroid medication that is unique for mind swelling and affliction remedy. God Bless You.
2016-08-09 10:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by matzen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really can't help it honestly is a hit or miss kind of thing. I know how you feel. I lost my 6 year old cousin to cancer. why did it have to happen to her she was just an innocent little girl. why did cancer have to take her life. there is really nothing you can do about it just tell him to stay strong and you make sure you stay by his side this the time he really needs you.
2006-08-04 14:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by employeeofthemonth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly feel for you. I though the same thing when my dad was diagnosed with cancer in 2002. It was like I was living in some dream world. My only advice to you is to spend as much time with your dad as your possibly can. Time is so precious. I will pray from him and I hope he will go into remission.
2006-08-04 13:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm sorry to hear that it happened to your father. But it's not right to wish it upon someone else. How far along is the cancer? Maybe it can be stopped and treated. I wish you and your father the best.
2006-08-04 13:54:28 · answer #11 · answered by indrep33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋