my older brother just dropped a bomb on me. im the youngest of three. i have a sister thats older and my brother is older then my sister he showed up for a family reunion with boobs and looking like a girl. i about died. hes always been a tuff guy ex marine. when i saw him he said what do you think i said wheres my brother he said he is more women then man now... his breasts are real and oh my god he is the ugliest woman i have ever seen. he thinks hes beautiful now he wants me to call him my sister and call him by his new name.... i dont know if im pissed off at him/her. or just ashamed. he will always be my brother.. but not my sister....
2006-08-04 13:15:36 · 9 answers · asked by punkinhead0 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OMG! you must be crushed! that is sad. i guess you should be half pissed and half ashamed. im so sorry to hear that. maybe you should knock some sense into him, help him seek help, thats not normal. good luck!
2006-08-04 13:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Missy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your brother is a transexual. Right now he probably needs your acceptance and love. Most likely he has felt that he was always a woman, that would explain why he would act like a "tough guy". Because he was struggling with the fact that he really felt that he was a woman, so in order to mask those feelings he acted as men are expected to act by society, tough. There is nothing to be ashamed of, he is still the same person you love, just that now he is who he felt he always was, which is a woman. It's normal to feel angry at her, but i hope you do your best to get over it, right now, like i said before, she needs acceptance for being who she feels she really is. Just try to think of your brother as a PERSON that you love, try to ignore the gender. If you need any more advice you can email me at dogluver8906@yahoo.com
2006-08-04 13:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sad that she didn't talk to the family, so you could prepare yourselves for such a big change.
Think of things from her side - most people in her position really feel like they are trapped in the wrong body. I am sure she made the decision to have surgery after a lot of thought, counseling and soul searching.
It likely will be that over time she will continue to take hormones and have surgeries to look more like a woman.
What she needs is your love and support right now...
2006-08-04 13:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Severina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one. tell him how you feel that way you can get more off your chest than he has on his. then ask him what brought on the change just to see where he's coming from, I know you've gotta be curious about that. then tell him this will be pretty hard to accept for a while so tell him he might want to tone it down in front of you at least for a little while. if you show you're understanding (though you may never agree) he may reciprocate the respect you want out of the situation.
2006-08-04 14:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this all fell on you. But try to understand what is going on with him/her? It is still family. And to turn your back on him/her right now would cause more strain with the situation. I know it may make you uncomfortable and a bit weird. Think, how would you want your family to treat you, if you were in there shoes??? Best wishes.
2006-08-04 14:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? If your not sure how you feel about this just give it a bit more time, it's obviously come as a great shock.
2006-08-04 13:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by hedgehog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the question
sounds like more of a sob story...do you want us to say sorry, looks like ur bro is a transvestite?
2006-08-04 13:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by fmfcorpsmenrsexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just hate it when guys have bigger boobs than I.
2006-08-04 13:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's(she's) family, you need to be there for him, no matter what.
2006-08-04 13:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋