she met min first but he told me he likes me more. but she knew him first.
2006-08-04 13:10:04 · 31 answers · asked by Elaine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has laid no claim to him and if you both like each other then that's all that matters....though for the sake of your friendship you may consider just moving on. Talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about this guy and that he's interested in you but if it's gonna cause a problem between you and your friend and it's a friendship that your not willing to sacrifice then you might consider her feelings and not dating him but a true friend will want to see you happy regardless of how it turns out... best thing though is honesty and being right up front with your feelings.. don't get to the point where you have to start sneaking around with him just so you don't hurt her feelings..... she deserves better than that.
2006-08-04 13:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by kitkool 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend about it calmly he may be telling her the same thing and if hes not you and the guy both tell her your feelings for each other and ask her if she has a problem with it if she does you need to decide whats more important some guy or your friendship. Most likely she will feel rejected by the guy but she wont stand in your way you all three just need to talk it out.
2006-08-04 20:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by baby kountry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much of good friends you are with, yeah, your friend.
Also, it depends on whether the guy likes you or her... and in whether the guy in question is worth liking.
Now, a red flag, he is telling you that he likes you more. It's not just "I like you", or "I don't like your friend", but "I like you more".
That sounds juvenile, and a bit without principles if you ask me. And for you not to even pick up on that BIG RED FLAG, it really cast questions about you, your principles and your friendship with your friend.
No person, no matter how great he may be is worth endangering a friendship, a good friendship. And no great guy would ever say to you "I like you more".
And no girl with a good head in her shoulders would even consider such an answer as a compliment or something worth considering.
You need to get your perspectives first. I would say forget about him. Really, specially if you want to avoid headaches.
*** EDIT ***
I'm amazed that most people who've answered hadn't picked up the subtletly of his response to you ("I LIKE YOU MORE").
What a great boyfriend he will make. The fact that this is going unmentioned tells me a lot about people in general.
2006-08-04 20:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by elnyka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you will lose either one of them....if you go on with this guy and if your friend is a possessive type of friend, you'll lose her. But if she graciously retreats...that's another story.
But if you let you friend go ahead, knowing that the guy likes you, you'll lose the guy...and possibly your friend as well, when she finds out from the guy that he prefers you to her. She'd think you're flirting with the guy behind her back. Worse, you'll always have bugging thoughts of regret for leaving that guy.
If your friend's friendship is worth cherishing, talk to her about it NICELY and let her know what the guy said to you. If your friend confronts him about it, it's also a good time for the both of you to test if this guy's love for you is for real.
2006-08-04 20:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend tell her how you feel. If she feels strongly about the guy then yea let it go don't ruin your friendship our a guy so not worth it. But hey you might find her interests aren't as deep as you thought.
2006-08-04 20:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by sj830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she shouldn't tough him either it's the hands off rule there are plenty of guys so one hotty lost isn't worth a ruined friendship
2006-08-04 20:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by Clair V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends would come first. That would get in the way of your friendship even if she said it would be okay. You wouldn't be able to talk to her about him which would distance your friendship with her.
2006-08-04 20:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by KimberlyKimberlyKimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself these questions:
1. how much do i like this guy?
2. how much does my friend like this guy?
3. what kind of friend is "this friend" will she be likely to choose the guy over me?
now, do you know the answer?
2006-08-04 20:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by ayrin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk 2 her and tell her that you like him 2 and he likes you 2..........your going to go out with him if she does'nt agry then make new friends and go with the guy......(the same thing happend to my cousin and now she is married with him of course she was 20 when she met him) go for it
2006-08-04 20:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by smiles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. You'll get to watch him prove his unworthiness with your friend. It's like wearing gloves!
2006-08-04 20:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋