I broke up with him but I've realized it was a huge mistake and I just want us to be together again. We were together almost 4 years and never broke up before. We've been broken up about 2 months now, but I don't think it's too late I just don't know the best way to go about this. Please no mean comments, I already feel bad. He really is the love of my life, all serious advice is appreciated, thank you.
2006-08-04 12:46:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I broke up with him because I was scared about how serious everything was becoming (Ibuying a house, getting engaged soon, etc.) and I had to take time to think about if he was the guy for me. I just became a runaway girlfriend I guess.
2006-08-04 12:52:48 · update #1
You have to give him the two things men love the most: a sweet personality and physical attention.
Here's how to gently guide him back into a relationship:
1) Don't call him up and ask him to "get back together." Instead, call him up to hang out and have some fun.
2) Then give him a taste of your lovin' to remind him what he's been missing. But that is only the beginning.
3) Once you fool around with him, don't think that you already have him back as a boyfriend. His decision making process only begins AFTER you fool around. Before you fool around, he is not thinking about getting back with you, he is only thinking about his physical desires (that's just the honest truth). After that first new encounter he will start thinking about the decision, so start being really nice to him. Don't complain about any of the things you two used to argue about. Treat him like you are trying to impress a new person. Even though you two have history together, you still need to "put your best foot forward." Just be sweet and fun.
4) Have another fun date. In the middle of the date gently guide the conversation to the subject of getting back together. For example, when you are kissing him, say how you two "really are great together." He will probably agree at that point to start seeing you again. This will work for two reasons: A) He has tried you out on a few test dates and he really likes what he is getting. He will want more B) You haven't shocked him into a relationship. You gently guided him into one.
2006-08-04 13:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 15:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend actually went through the exact same thing with his girlfriend a while back. They had been dating for about three years when his eye went astray. He wanted to try a different relationship but soon found himself missing his ex. After he realized that he made such a huge mistake, he went back to her. They talked things over and shortly there after made up and they have been together ever since.
My advice to you is to talk to him, and be honest. Why did you break up with him in the first place? Are there certain aspects of your relationship that need extra attention? Tell him how you feel, tell him that you're sorry. If you have spent so much time together, he should at least hear you out so I wouldn't be nervous about that. Most importantly, don't be nervous about his response. It may be negative, but it has more chances of being positive. Just talk to him.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 12:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by yayachicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Houndog has it right go out on a few dates with him just like you were starting a new relationship. Don't bring up the past unless he initiates it first.
Be affectionate and attentive to his needs. Let him have the idea of getting back together, but you throw him hints and stroke his ego. When he is ready to get back together he will feel that it is his idea and not a desperate woman trying to capture him. After all, you broke his heart when you left him and it takes time to heal.
I don't blame you for getting cold feet, it happens. When you do get back together you'll be even more committed to a lasting relationship and stronger for going through this ordeal.
No Luck involved here, just an early congratulations!!
2006-08-04 16:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kamikazeâ?ºKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you need a reality check. If he has not tried to contact you in the past two months. I do not think he wants to get back with you.
You can also try talking to him. How about calling him and trying to have a serious conversation. Just make sure he has not moved on before you spill out how you feel.
2006-08-04 12:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need too do is call him and set up a date and time so you could really have a heart too heart talk with him, and let him know that you really made a big mistake and that if he would forgive you, and take you back and start all over , not were you left off. Start anew relationship. But you need to be very honest with him and explain yourself too him. Good luck.
2006-08-04 12:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-28 03:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Laure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by telling him what you told us. I really don't know your circumstances, so I can't give you anymore advice than this until more details are known. Why did you break up with him?
2006-08-04 12:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by pinomic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you explains why you left him in the first place. that will have huge Bering on how to get back with him.
2006-08-04 12:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up with him??? thought you had the chance of something better and it fell through???
if you broke it off, then he was probably hurt... do you think he deserves to go through it all again???
2006-08-04 12:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋