I cant get my 22 month old to stop pinching.. any suggestions?

Question

I've tried pinching her back, making her sit in time out, spanking her, and nothing seems to work.

Answer 1

pinch back! not hard just enough for the child to understand that thats not nice and it hurts people

Answer 2

I've had this same problem with two of my four daughters. My soon to be six year old used to both pinch and bite when she was that age. Biting her back (just enough to make it hurt, but not to leave a mark on her) or pinching her back (same as the biting) was enough to get her to stop. Of course, it took a couple of times, but it finally got through to her that each time SHE did it, that SHE would also get it back. She soon stopped.
Now..with my present two yr. old daughter...she likes to pinch. She does this not as a baby phase, but out of sheer anger. She does it to outright hurt the person she is upset at. So, when she goes to do this (it's quite predictable with her, and possibly with your own as well), I actually grab her hand (firmly, but gently) and hold onto it. She is unable to continue with her action of attempting to pinch. This is frustrating to her, but she realizes that it happens every time she goes to pinch..so she has cut down on this behavior a lot. We are still working on it, but not NEAR as much as we had to at first. The "incidents" are few and far between now. She usually sits down and pouts now, instead of taking it out on someone with her pinching. Good luck.

Answer 3

Give her something that she CAN pinch- like a very soft stuffed animal. You can even call it "the pinching bear" or whatever...

If it's small enough (but not small enough to choke on) you can keep it in her pocket. That way you can quickly hand it to her when she goes to pinch and say, "Pinch the pinching bear."

Try, if possible to not react too much if she pinches people- but redirect her to the pinching toy.

Best wishes from a grandma-aged person

Answer 4

My son was a biter for a while and I tried time out, spanking and all the rest to get him to stop. What worked, finally, was to walk out of the room, without saying anything. If he bit me, I would just leave and go into my room for a couple of minutes. That seemed to get the point across that he was hurting me, and I didn't like it. With a lot of kids actions speak louder than words.

Answer 5

She is only 22 months. Spanking not a good idea. But, making suggestions that you don't want her to do that will work over time. Positive reinforcement for good things, and negative for stuff that you wish her not to do. Say NO, don't do that. Make a statement that signifys that there will be punishment, and make the punishment known. Works great for me.

Answer 6

This could be aggressive behaviour, which is done on purpose to vent excessive aggression. Retaliation in kind would not help.
You should move away or move the baby away when she starts pinching. This will solve the matter for the time.
However, if she shows another aggressive behaviour, it's time to consult the Psychologist!

Answer 7

Next time she does it, pretend to cry.....seriously, it will teach her that she hurt mommy and she will not like to see you cry. Tell her you need a hug to feel better. Then after the hug, explain why she made you cry. I bet she'll never pinch you again.

Answer 8

Your not pinching hard enough!

Answer 9

first slap her hand ( gently since she is still a baby)

tell her that is not nice and it make you feel sad

if she does it again, cover your face with your hands and act like your crying then tell her she hurt mommy.. she most likely wont want to hurt her mommy

Answer 10

My daughter tried this. I smacked her hand once and she hasn't done it since. Same with biting.