I know a few people that I hang out with occasionally, but there's no one that seems interested in doing it on a regular basis. I don't really have anyone that I feel like I can confide in, outside of my family.
Is anyone else like this? I think I would feel better if I heard back from someone who feels the same, or has feeled the same in the past. Here's an example of what I'm talking about:
I got this new cell phone yesterday. I had been without one for almost a year since I was living on a budget (the new one is for my internship). Anyways, I only have four names programmed into the phone. That's it.
It's stuff such as this that really rubs it in.
So if you're in the same situation, or you have been, then please respond.
2006-08-04 12:08:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont have any 'close', or 'best' friends.
I have friends that I work with... I have friends from my hobbies... but thats it.
If I erased all my work mates and people from my 'hobbie' classes from my phone... I wont have many number either.
Apart from that I keep to myself a lot. I have been raised this way. I am use to it and dont have friends to meet up with, etcetcetc.
Just do things that you enjoy doing dude. Things may change for you... if not, keep yourself motivated by what you enjoy doing.
It is good to see a few people come out by answering your question.... We are not alone.
To all that answered the guys question.... WE SHOULD ALL MEET UP AND HAVE A GOOD NIGHT OUT!!! ;-)
Good luck and I hope my answer has helped your situation.
2006-08-04 12:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way and sometimes I still do. Part of it was that I didn't realize how much more I could do to deepen my current friendships and expand into new ones, the other part of it was I felt like no one would want me as a friend.
I only have advice and these are only suggestions. :) I hope it helps you.
Talk to some of your friends, maybe tell them how you feel or try to encourage more hang out time or to hang out with their other friends. Maybe you'll meet someone.
It's possible you can find a good friend in a bar or such, but don't go looking there... It's very doubtful. Try hanging around or go to conventions for a hobby you enjoy. Talk to some other people at work and maybe you'll hit it off.
Get yourself out there and don't let those little things that rub it in get you down! People will and do like you and don't ever think otherwise! :)
I can count my friends on one hand, but each one that I count I know they're my true friends and are always there when I need them. Think back about your current friendships and try to expand your horizons. :)
2006-08-04 12:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am in the same situation now I have a lot of "friends" but none I really feel I can trust and confide in. They only talk when they need advise and when they find someone more interesting to talk to they leave and wont talk to me for months at a time then come back and say I'm sorry forgive me. And I'm to nice to tell them to go and get a life because I've made mistakes before and know I would want to be forgiven but it's starting to get really annoying!
2006-08-04 12:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I am in the same boat as you. I'm in my late twenties, and right now I really don't have anyone who I consider a really close friend. I have realized that there is not anything wrong with me, its just the way things are, and I'm ok with it. Sometimes in my life I have alot of "acquaintances" and at times I'll have a really really best friend, or sometimes a boyfriend who I confide in, but in the end it's just how things are, and there is nothing wrong with it. To be honest, I confide in God more than anyone else. I think alot of people who appear to have tons of friends don't really CONNECT with those people, they just like to surround themselves with alot of "acquaintances"...but maybe they are close to them, I don't know. It's ok though, don't worry about it, alot of people are like you. Hey, if it makes you feel any better, I don't even HAVE a cell phone, lol.
2006-08-04 12:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome....Anyone thinks they have more than 5 good friends is headed for a heartache. I trust noone with my money and no man with my woman. I have a chosen couple of people that I would trust with with my LIFE. That is a true friend. Thank God for family and the few friends that really care. Better to ne lonely than betrayed AND lonely.
2006-08-04 12:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. The mistake I keep making is trying to be friends with co workers. Just when I think I have made a true friend, they end up using me. I would do anything to find someone that I could relate to and just hang out with.
2006-08-04 12:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there =) well yea i've been in dat kind of situation...i've been backstabbed..lied to..used n other sh.it. At dat point i thoht i couldn't trust anybody..but eventually i found sum 1 who is a true friend 2 me..you don't need many friends jus one good one..but remember ur friends Can b ur enemies..im lucky cuz i actually found sum 1 true 2
me...we respect n value our friendship ALOT! but don't always count on sum 1 2 b there 4 u..sometimes dey js wont n dey wont be da ones to pay ur bills n sh.it like dat so jus if u have to rly trust anybody trust urself n believe in urself. but maybe one day u'll find sum 1 true but seriously trust ur self before u trust anybody else but be careful though. anyways bye =)
2006-08-04 12:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no friends either. All I do is work two jobs and that's it. I have no friends whatsoever. I feel like Tom Hanks in the movie Castaway. I feel all alone on the days that I don't work. Sometimes I wish I can kill myself.
2006-08-04 12:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i now am in the situation................i have a few "distant friends" but no real ones yeah it sucks but you just half to deal with it eventually you will start meeting new people & if you really like the ones you hang out with now then make a real effort to befriend them "true friends" are hard to come by now days!!!!
2006-08-04 12:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have friends either, just a few people i keep close to me so i can keep an eye on them. u dont need friends anyways, eventualy they will betray u and stab u in the back. remember these words: TRUST NO 1
2006-08-04 12:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋