How do you move on when you 've lost your mom who was also your best friend?!?

Answer 1

Sweetie U just have to find the strengthen, remember all the good thing about her, I'm sUre she wouldn't want u to feel this way. U have to just live on in her honor. She's still with u, she's in ur heart. And she's in u ( what I mean by that is when ever u do something she does or taught u) have u ever looked in the mirror at at a picture of yourself and u can see that u look like her or u have something of her like your hands, u eyes, the way u walk or talk, the way u do things, the way u prepare food or clean the house. Do u like the same things she liked? did u wear the same perfume or nail polish? do u like the same colors?

Did she ever sing to u? what was the last picture u and she took together?

What was the best advice she ever given u?

That's what I mean when I say she's with u

She must to have been a wonderful woman and so will u because that's how she raised u


God Bless

Answer 2

There is no real answer...only time. You have to allow yourself time to grieve & no one can set a time limit on that. Some take longer than others. I lost my 3 month old son 28 years ago & my dad, 2 years ago. Both were devastating losses & at times I just didn't know how I would go on. It was like part of me was gone too. We all have our own way of dealing with death. The pain is unbearable at times, but with the passing of that time, the pain subsides & we always have the wonderful memories of that person. My daughter & I are very close (she's in college now) & I can relate to the relationship you are talking about, and I can understand the hurt you must be feeling. I know how you are searching for a right answer, but realistically...there are none. You just have to take each day as it comes. There will be bad days & good days. And with the closeness you had with your mom, it will probably take a good while before the pain subsides...but that's ok. Don't try to fit into someone elses idea of a "grieving period". Go at your own pace & ask God to help you...He will...I know from my own experience. When my dad died of pancreatic cancer...I was so hurt & being an only child, I had no siblings to share the grief with. So I did some research on that type of cancer & I walked in the local "Relay for Life"...and I got information on the cancer & took it to local doctors to give their patients that faced the same cancer...It directed them to a website where they could get answers & help on dealing with it. I will never know if that helped anyone else...but it helped me to feel I was doing something in honor of my dad. I know your mom didn't have cancer but maybe there was something else she was passionate about that you could get involved with as an honor to her. Maybe try to get a scholorship going for a child that wants to dance professionally...or hold a benefit dance & donate the procededs to her favorite charity...something like that! But only when you are ready. Don't be too hard on yourself...but don't let yourself go down too far either...Be the person your mom would want you to be! Hope this was of some help. You are in my prayers. Good Luck & God Bless!!

Answer 3

I can't answer that..stupid I know since that's the point of yahoo answers. But my mom died last June and I can't move on from that. the reminder of that horrible day is still so vivid in my mind that it tears my insides out some days when I just open my eyes. The only thing left to do is grieve.go a little nuts.miss her terribly. you cant stop the pain. you will go crazy trying to find a sane way to handle it...there isn't one. I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

I lost my mother 7 years ago this day from cancer. I remember all the good times I had with her. I remember how she would dance around the house to Neil Diamond songs (he was her fave singer!!), acting like she was 16 instead of 41. I still visit her grave, like today, her birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, ect.

I would have to say the best thing to help you heal is just remember how much she loved you and you loved her.

Answer 5

you just have to remember she is still in your heart. i lost my mom in 1988 and she was my best friend too and it still hurts but i think about all the good times and everything she taught me. i talk about her to my kids a lot. so they can kinda know her without having ever met her. god bless and prayers your way.

Answer 6

you treasure the moments you had. also many cities offer grief counseling for people who have lost a love one. other people talk about their loved ones and how they feel. i think this would do you a world of good. it's never easy to lose a love one, I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

I don't know either? I am dealing with the same issue right now! Believe me I just don't know? My mom was my best friend, my mom, mother,teacher,doctor,sometimes my worst enemy! My mom ment everything to me. We were extremely close and she was extremely close to my 4 kids! There is such a void in my life right now, I wake up every morning and mom is my first thought. Before I go to sleep at night I say my prayers, and ask god why? I know we all go sometime and that is life but there is no way to prepare for the grief, sadness, great loss, I am suppose to be happy that there was no pain and suffering, my mom went suddendly and peacefully, We were out dancing and she went down right in the middle of the dance floor, so my mom was smiling and doing exactly what she wanted to do, but I feel no better for that, I am glad that I was right there with her, as she waited for me to get to the club, I wasn't even going that night, My mom kept on calling me and asking me if I was comming? I was getting ready for inventory at work so I had gone in to work at 3am so I just wanted to stay at home and rest as the next few days were to be quite hectic, yet mom kept on calling. Finally I decided to go but I needed a ride, I asked my daughter to take me, she said ok but it would be awhile, ok in the mean time mom called again and saked me if she could just come and pick me up? I said no as she had friends with her from work and she had gone early to get the best table in the place, I told her I would be there. Finally I had arrived and asked my daughter to come in and see grandma for a little bit, My daughter always refused to go out with us because she hated our kind of music. This time she said"yes" so we went inside and my mom was so suprised to see me finally make it and that my daughter and her boyfriend actually came too. She was so happy and she introduced us all around to everyone, we got to visit for about a half hour and then she made my daughters boyfriend go dance with her,,,,the song ended my mom said "that's the last dance for me" the boyfriend said "just one more spin" and with that slowly my mom went down, it looked like something from a movie as it was so graceful and that skinny scrawny boy held my mom (who was a larger woman) and he did not let her drop. I know she would have loved how she died, being the center of attention center stage! For that I am happy, But I just don't know how am I suppose to ever feel "right"? How do I get over this sadness, I have had others die and I hurt but this is something I can't even explain? I remember everything and look at pictures, I listen to her voice on the answering machine and I saved the last voice message from my cell....I just want her to talk back to me again, I want her to tell me she loves me. I know one day we will be together, I take some relief in that but untill then I still hurt and look for some answers too! There are books and good advice, good friends and church, there is so much out there and something may help you? I haven't found anything usefull to me as of yet? Keep on looking.....I miss my mom too!

Answer 8

its very difficult to do by yourself, sounds like counseling would help.
and a group that has lost a parent,
doing alone is difficult and most the time dont work, talk to counselor they have dealt with this.

Answer 9

Hi there.... this is a hard one!.... i think you have to have a deep think.... ask her this question.... i believe we can ask out relatives who have passed just as we ask god for help..... take some time alone in a quiet room and try to picture her face..concentrate on it for a while.. and ask her.... i think you will be surprised

Answer 10

You just do it...She wouldn't want you to be all sad and not do anything..She would want you to move on...Celebrate life.....and remember one day you will see her again