Ok i've known this girl since i can remember and for the last 2 years i have been crazy about her and i finally built the courage to tell her how i feel and found out she feels the same way. Now were together and shes my girlfriend which is more than i can wish for. The only problem is she lives in North East and i live in Florida but were doing a long distance relationship and i love that. The only problem is after about 5-10 minutes on the phone i can never think of anything to talk about with her when i should be able to talk to her for hours. Does anyone have any advice?
2006-08-04 12:03:58 · 7 answers · asked by go Giants 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand. what's really going on is i think that you're feeling a bit of pressure, simply because you've liked her for so long, and that when you get on the phone, you feel the need to have this "mind-blowing, deep, intense" phone conversation to stimulate her, otherwise you're afraid she won't be interested. take a deep breath, relax, talk about past experiences, dreams, future desires, what you want to do this weekend, what you did last night. anything. just go with whatever goes through your head. don't worry about sounding stupid. she won't give a damn. my g/f and i talk about stupid stuff all the time. if nothing else, it will give you guys a laugh. :P
2006-08-04 12:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it will be hard at first but don't give up. While you are walking her through your day, don't just state the facts, stop throughout the converstion and say and when ____ did or said ____ , I felt ____. I felt that way because_______. How do you feel about that? Why? Stuff like that dude. Throughout the day just kinda log stuff that you will mention to her. Ask questions that don't have simple anwsers, but don't be too in depth all of the time, just chat and be silly sometimes. It is a line you will have to learn to walk. You are going to have to brush up your conversation skills, so start praticing, don't just think it will get better without you working on it. If you talk like your filling out a police report then your screwed. Long distance is not easy, as I think you are starting to see. Good luck.
2006-08-04 12:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by jinxed_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see i am kinda in the same bost. this girl i like and well we dated during the school semester but now that is summer we have been phone buddies we each cannot wait untill the end of august when school starts again so we can be together more but here is what i found i do when i am in this situation. first after the normal how have you been or how was your day i find out what she has been up to and go off that when that rns out i find i would rather just sit there on the phone and listen to her breath or even what she is doing while on the phone with me. i know this sounds strange but i have found that we can even watch tv together and make comments on that. if you are as head over heels as i am then try this it just makes me feel like she is sitting right there with me. good luck in your long distance relationship too hell mine is only 22 miles but with her father it might as well be 22 thousand.
2006-08-04 12:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by htduc73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jot down what you want to say beforehand. Make it a long list before you phone her. And try to get her to talk more about herself by asking her lots of questions. Also send her a few short, sweet message texts via your cell phone(i.e. SMS her) everyday. Another way to communicate with her is via emails for you can include lots of photos (esp. of yourself), jokes, cartoons & other stuff (search for them in the internet, copy & paste them in your emails). Take your time to compose each email so that it won't be too brief..And also send her short notes, photos of yourself & small, inexpensive gifts by snail mail 2 or 3 times a month & that will keep her busy thinking about you.
2006-08-04 12:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Shot At Sight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a question Ive been trying to figure out since i can begin....
but do you know everything about her like you can go on a game show and win by a perfect score
me and my friend at one point we started writing down questions like how do you feel about yourself do you like me do you have any insecurities you have to ask questions that you wouldn't of keep the conversation going tell her stories that you would tell no one do some soul searching explore her with questions and when all the question are answered you will always have something to talk about including how your day was and etc.
2006-08-04 12:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by lilmizzd2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her about the future about things you dont know about her. Ask her to tell you somthing you dont know about her. How about things that are going on in the world and see how she feels about them.
Maybe read a book and have her read it as well and talk about it on the phone. Get creative!
Good Luck!
2006-08-04 12:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww
you guys need to start a hoby togerher :)
2006-08-04 12:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋