My boyfriend and I are very much in love and it just seems like almost everything he does irritates me. How do I not let little stuff irritate me so much. Oh by the way this is the first time ive ever lived with anyone(other than my parents but we never saw each other). And ive been living completely alone for the past year.
2006-08-04 11:58:04 · 9 answers · asked by piercednurse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is give and take, sure...but mostly it's give. You have to love this other person so much, that you can look beyond the little irritations. Do they leave the toilet seat up? snore? leave the cap off the toothpaste? SO? What do YOU do, that might irritate them? We ALL have our little quirks, and rub each other wrong. This goes for family members and co-workers also. It's part of being individuals. How much do you love him? Try and remember what drew you to him in the first place...if the little irritations are so little, let them go; after all, that's what he's doing with your little oddities. But, if it's more than you can bear, talk to him, tell him, "listen honey, I have this thing, about guys who drink out of the milk jug, instead of a glass." Or whatever the problem is, chances are, he's going to mirror back to you things you didn't know were irritating him, though! So, be open minded to change, and perhaps you can help him not to act so Neaderthal! Good luck! Girl!
2006-08-04 12:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering the same thing myself I've been married to my husband for 23 years, and we dated for 2 before we got married.... The first 2 years of our marriage he abused me even while I was pregnant but I stayed with him anyway.Now even though he stopped beatin my ~~~ up ( he did beat me in the back of the head til I hit the ground a couple of weeks ago) but that's the first time in many years, of course I'm to blame for that too because he makes me so mad I find myself hitting, and throwing things at him at times.And I was just like you I went straight from living with my parents to living with him so there was alot of things we did'nt know about each other. I really think that's alot of the problems with people is trying to get used to thier habits and different veiws on the living arrangment. But I have to tell you, if yall are having all thease problems now think about my situation. Still after all thease years I'm still living in h~~~ most of the time. I wish I had a simple answer to your question but I'm sorry I don't. All I can say is I truly wish you nothing but good luck and I hope you make the right decision.
2006-08-04 19:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Texas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should spend some time apart, go back to dating, I mean on a weekly bases, not everyday. When I say date, that is what I mean - make it special, put the makeup on have him buy you flowers, put on that dress that you have been saving for someday. Do something exciting and spontanious - like skydiving or spend an afternoon at the beach (granted there is a beach any where within a 2 hour drive).
Go rock climbing indoor or out.
2006-08-04 19:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's reason over emotion. If you are irritated at all he does, then your love isn't going to last.
You either have to get over the irritation, or he'll drive you crazy and your love for him, will die.
We all love people, but there are many that we simply can't live with.
2006-08-04 19:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let it get to you. You just have to get use to living with him. When my boyfriend and I move in with eachother he did tons of things that irritated me. Like not picking up after himself and eating crunchy things in bed. I'm sure there are things that I do that irritate him too. You just have to get use to eachother and compromise. It will get easier I promise.
2006-08-04 19:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that you may have to leave him. But it sounds to me like you may be sweating the small stuff. If you can't let these little things go then you will have to go your separate ways.
2006-08-04 19:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's what the heart and soul want. but the brain is set to it's own tune. you will have to give and take and SO DOES HE if its love you can do it if its fascination enjoy and move on.
2006-08-04 19:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dno itz gay how love workz
2006-08-04 19:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by shay_296 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... it is called bein to much alike......
2006-08-04 19:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dopey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋